You've been together several months, but something doesn't feel quite right with your partner. You start wondering if he or she might be having an affair. Is it jealousy, your imagination or just apathy that is the result of long-term complacency with each other? It can be hard to tell sometimes, but when in doubt go with your gut and look for the following behaviors that might mean your mate is having an affair.
Oddly, your partner might be having an affair if he or she is acting MORE attentive than usual to you. If you are suddenly showered with gifts and compliments in what almost seems like an inappropriate manner, then he or she might be trying to make up for guilty feelings.
Look for a sudden change in your partner's routine. Is he or she staying out a lot longer than usual, not showing up for dinner or unaccountable at times for his or her whereabouts? If your partner suddenly alters his or her daily habits that too can be a sign of cheating.
If your partner is frequently picking fights with you, that might also mean big trouble. The emotional logic behind this is that picking a fight gives him or her to an excuse to fly out of the house and possibly into the arms of the third party. That way the cheating partner can deny guilty feelings and blame you instead. If you are not to blame, a cheater will create a reason to justify what he or she is doing to you.
Your mate might also become overly critical of you. This is part of an agenda that once again, gives them an excuse to leave or justify the affair. The guilty partner might also be overly sensitive to criticism from you as there may be a ring of truth that triggers guilty feelings that they would rather not face.
If every time you have fight your partner threatens you with ending the relationship, you might also have a cheater on your hands. Your lover feels safe with these ultimatums because they have another person as ';back-up'; should the two of you decide to split up.
Another sign of cheating is a consistent negative attitude towards the relationship and comments that make you feel as if you have an expiry date inked on your forehead. This might include saying such things as ';I would like to travel next year.'; (with no mention of a ';we';) or ';You know I will always love you, even if this ever ended.';
If your lover becomes withdrawn and depressed, it could be that he or she is brooding about what they have done and can't handle the guilt. Sudden explosive displays of affection or anger can also be a bad sign, as the partner might be transferring emotional reactions from the infidelity onto you simply because you see each other more often. In other words, you may be the recipient of a mood that is not due to any of your actions at all.
If your mate becomes incommunicative and refuses to interact with you, this can also be a sign of cheating. He or she might seem cold or inconsiderate of your feelings and be less intimate with you in general. This kind of psychological distancing includes such behaviors such as locking the bathroom door when he or she has always left it open. They may also insist that they pick up their own dry cleaning or keep locked drawers. They may also insist on doing their own laundry. If he or she seems extra finicky about personal boundaries or seems to be trying to set new rules about privacy, this is also a warning sign.
Relationship experts say that if your partner's taste in clothing, movies or music suddenly changes, than they may be trying please their new lover.
Another sign of cheating is if your partner seems to be a bit over the top when cutting up or criticizing a person that both of you know quite well. This is a common tactic used to conceal an affair that leads you believe that nothing would ever be possible between the two of them.
Perhaps the biggest indication that you might be dealing with a cheater is if they stop acting as if they are a part of your life. They may lose complete interest in family, friends or following through on mutual financial goals or plans for the future. Your mate also might be reluctant to go out of town for any reason, as that might cause a crisis in his or her other relationship.
If you do discover that your mate is cheating, you are likely to go through the five stages of grief - shock denial, anger, sadness and acceptance. There is no underestimating the enormous impact of these reactions, even if you had a gut feeling that you knew about the affair all along.
Your relationship will also probably go through three phases. The first is the reaction to the affair, the second is the decision as to what to do about it and the last is a recuperation phase (whether or not you decide to stick it out with your partner in the end.) If your partner is willing to be part of the decision and recuperation phases, it is highly recommended that you seek marriage or relationship counseling to deal with the fall-out from the infidelity.
How dis will help u in it...........Is my boyfriend cheating?
Girl get out of the situation, you don't need to be around someone like that, find a better man.
You knew the history, so all I can say is, ';You made your bed, now lie in it.';
yep...your his ';side dish'; lady
Yeah, if hes not cheating he is at least lying to you. These types of guys are the worst type to get involved with. Do your self a favor and start distancing yourself from him emotionally and physically if possible.
hes cheating
yep hes cheating
He isnt cheating on you. You are the chubby/sultry side action. Since he is still married, you are the other woman. Get out of this now and don't deal with him any more.
When you love yourself, you will not put up with this.
Please start now.
This is never about him. It's about you, and how much you value yourself.
I have plenty of issues with that myself, and I still will not stand for being called by any name other than my own!
Sorry to say, but I think you already know the answer here. Now you have to decide whether you want to continue with this relationship or not.
You're BF still has feelings for his wife %26amp; is hopeing that she will take him back. You are just a cruch for him to lean on for now.Dump him %26amp; move on.Good luck.
I'm in a very similar situation, and can say with complete confidence that if he hasn't yet, he most likely will. The very best litmus test of his true feelings, would be to demand that he come clean about his feelings in the presence of both you and his wife. If you are in his heart, and the person whom he truly wishes to be with this will not cause a problem. If on the other hand you get a bunch of excuses about how it would be mean or huirtful to expose his wife to an expression of his true feelings, than you will know where his heart resides. Not with you. Good luck.
yeah hes cheating, but not on you, with you
You have to understand that he will always have a strong feeling for his ex-wife they were married mayb the best thing to sit down with hin n understand y he feels the need to lie bout being with her n such thing n also ask why he has to hid everything
sorry but if you are going with him but the other has begin there more then you the other has his love .but if his is going with you and the other him the doesn't Love neither of you is has playing with both of you.
wellll maybe you should talk to him about it and if you see any misunderstanding in him (tryin to git his lie 2gether) then sort of dump im because that wat i wood have done
They're still married, and the divorce hasn't gone through. I see drama in the works, be careful of the wife she may be following you and learning your eevry move.
He's married. Wake up!!! he will never leave her, they never do.
Apparently he is cheating on you because why would he feel the need to constantly keep seeing her if they don't have any kids or any reasons to see her. Of course he still feels for her if he is willing to risk y'all relationship over a thing that he once had with his wife if it's all supposed to be a thing of the past.
Yes!!! Not sure if he's cheating you or his wife.
well...did he cheat on his wife for u? maybe ur just the mistress and he really does love his wife...and wants to resolve things with her..i mean THEY WERE MARRIED ...its not like she isnt in his past
The key word is wife. He's married, plain and simple. It doesn't matter if they are separated. He still loves her, he spends time with her.
your his dog that why he hasn't divorced he yet dohhhhhhhh.
And OF COURSE he's cheating: He's been married to HER and he's dating YOU. So he's technically cheating on her, not you. What I suggest is to open your eyes and realize that even if he DID leave her for you, he'll probably run off with another chick in a few years' time. So in short: LEave him, and try to find someone who isn't married this time.
yes he is but it's not on you it's with you and that is why you feel the way you do because you are in the wrong. Yes, they may have been separated when you met him but they are not divorce which legally lawfully and godly that is still his wife and you are thee concubine. Which is a dirty job but you brought that on yourself and ours answer cannot make you feel better it can only hinder your decision your have to do this for yourself. Think of it like this whatever he did to her he's gonna do to you. I was married to my ex for 7 years and it never stopped women after women and he would always come home to me. Until the last time when he came home and me and her was sitting there waiting to whoop his ***! Get the pictures there is to many single men out there waiting for a good women find you one you can call your own and do investigations on his *** too make sure he's single and if he's a good man you'll know it when you meet him it won't be about lust!!!!
No...your question is not: ';Is my boyfriend cheating on me?';
Is it really?... Is that really your question? Really?....
If I could, I'd have a lot more questions for *you* starting with: ';What in the world is wrong with you?';
But, back to yours:
Yes, your ';boyfriend'; is cheating.....but not on you, nitwit...
On his wife.
Yes, he is still dealing with his wife. That is why is alway making a mistake and calling you her. it seem there is a whole lot he is not teeling you, WANNA KNOW IF HE IS REAL AND REALLY WANT TO BE WITH YOU, TELL HIM TO GET HIS DIVORCE and if you want to bluff tell him you will help pay for it to help it move faster. If you start to hear excusing he is with his wife.
Good Luck.
He's playing both of you. Drop his sorry butt and kick him to the curb.
If he still has that strong of a relationship with her, then he's not giving you all of his love. Seriously, is he over her? If not, then break up!
it sounds like he was interested in you when he wasn't supposed to be,so now he is interested in her because he is not supposed to be. He is playing both of you against each other.
It's been 2 years and he hasn't divorced her yet? You need to take a look at that. Most likely he is or he wouldn't have the need to hide his phone. Clearly when he is with her a big DO NOT DISTURB STAND comes to mind if he turns off his phone.
Why are you with someone who lies to you and hides things from you? Tell him ';so long'; and to call you when the divorce is final...if you're still available, you can consider possibly dating him again then.
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