Wednesday, August 18, 2010

I love my boyfriend but I suspect he is cheating on me with men. How should I deal with this?

I have been serious with my boyfriend for about 6 months and have known him for 6 years. His last girlfriend was someone I knew and when he and I got together she warned me he was gay. I thought she was crazy and trying to break us up because after all, HE picked ME up! About 1 month ago he left his MSN account open on my lap top and I saw he had recieved a message from a male saying ';hey sexy';. I asked him about it and he got defensive saying he didn't know the person. A couple of weeks later he left his account open again and I checked his e-mail. He had several messages from men on a gay singles network suggesting that they perform gay acts together. From the e-mails I discovered that he has an account on this gay singles network and viewed his profile. I am very confused because we have amazing sex together and he doesn't seem to have any trouble getting turned on by me. I love him to death and we often talk about spending the rest of our lives together. Please help!!I love my boyfriend but I suspect he is cheating on me with men. How should I deal with this?
He probably does love you.. Fact of the matter is he might just be curious. Or even bi. You need to sit him down and discuss whats ok with you. Whether he's bi or not, you need to set the ground rules that its NOT fine for him to have other sexual partners. But be very understanding about his orientation. Ya it sucks but dont judge him on that or make him feel like he's horrible for feeling like that. Cuz from what you've told me it sounds like he does enjoy men if not at least a little bit.I love my boyfriend but I suspect he is cheating on me with men. How should I deal with this?
I doubt that he ';accidentally'; left his account open that many times. He wanted to get caught he wants to tell you and this is way of coming out of the closet. Now he's probably not fully gay but he's gotta be BI. I bet he does your A SS and pretends you are a dude.
He's bi-sexual which means he likes both sexes, but you must seriously think of breaking up with him and not having any communications with him ever again. You are in for a lot of heartbreak and even AIDS. That in itself is not worth the risk of continuing with him.
You have to follow your heart on this one. I know what your going through is tough but what you have to realize is that...well...things change. People change, but the love they have for you don't. Talk to him about it and tell him how you truely feel. Ask him what's going on between you two and tell him what you feel about what you saw.
He left his account open for you to make the discovery. What you do about it is up to you. If you like to share him, and don't mind the possibility of STD's or worse, stay with him. Otherwise, you know what you have to do.
Ewww, eww.





Ok, I am not into people that cannot be into me, 1st of all, so I don't get people that stay because they ';love'; somebody.





Also - do want the HIV? It is not a gay only disease - but you can't lie with statistics.
Thats a very tricky situation your in. Well, its good your worried, but isnt that enough proof already? Talk to him and have a serious chat, a long one with him to see if you can sort it out. and tell him about the gay site.
First, he's CHEATING; and second, he's cheating on you WITH MEN. No matter which way you look at it, and even he's just a bisexual, it's a lose-lose situation. Let him go.
Okay, whatever it is. DON'T let him know you invaded his e-mail and violated his online account. Just try a different way to talk to him without bringing up that you invaded his privacy.
Deal with it, as if it were a woman? I dont know, how you deal with someone who you consider is cheating with you.





I can however suggest that you both talk it over before you do anything about it.
Your GayDar should be going crazy! Numerous email? Comments from his ex? Gay singles network?





Drop him and get an STD test. Chances are good he's a bare-back man that hates dealing with protection. Condoms are not mandatory at glory holes in the bus station.
well the best way is to ask him directly if he is a bi-sexual!


Approach him nicely and in a a place where no one can hear you.


Just take a deep breath then go!!!
Well, he is obviously embarrased... but, if he has a single network, gay or not...he isnt trustworthy, sorry :(





Remember, the good ones are always gay!
ummm im sorry to tell you but your boyfriend is gay





you sound too hot for him any way





dump his ***





his ex warned you and you saw it on his email for yourself
awh:(


but im pretty sure he's bi or something


people are probably just saying that to him,he might not be actually doing anything though:)
i didn't read all of the above but the best solution to such problems is conversation and understanding; patience as well.


Good luck...
OMG SWEETIE RUN!! I'm serious, do not invest ANY more time in this relationship, cut bait and get out now! You're a beard! Sorry but RUN!!
He might not be gay he might be bi-sexual and the hey sexy comment guys do that as a joke its just what we do its not gay. But I think I would ask him about it
check his search history on his pc all men look at porn there should be some gay porn websites in there if hes gay
he is blatently gay if he has a profile on GAY network.


he just has u 2 get off on,. seriously move on.
talk to him about it, maybe he is bi, and he has always had a part of his life that he wanted to discover.








ya never kno
Get tested for HIV and dump this fag reguardless of the results.
Maybe he's bi-sexual? But if he is only gay, he may be using you as a cover-up...
Talk to him about it. Maybe he is bisexual. you never know.
Well... You need to talk to him about it. Otherwise you won't be able to get this thing off your chest.
He's def attracted to men in some way...
Talk to some of his friends and find out . If yes tell it is over and that u know his dirty little secret
he is bi-sexual and needs men too. You either accept it, or move on.
I guess you got f***ked... sorry.
talk to him about it !!!!!!!
maybe you look-a-like-a man

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