So this is more like advice for everyone!?

ok so i see alot of the same questions asked on here and i was thinking about different things in my life and came up with some stuff that i think i knew along but im just now starting to take my own advice..





1. if you are an honest person and you like to tell people exactly how you feel,well that's not always good,i mean it is wonderful to be honest but sometimes you have to watch how honest you are..when telling someone something that might upset them be as nice as possible about it instead of just straight out saying it because they might drift away from you because they think your a mean person.





2.if your dealing with a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend who you wont leave because you love him/her..you need to sit down and think about what it is you really love about him/her...you might come to relize you dont know simply because you think you love him/her..you might think of how he/she used to be but you cant rely on the past to keep your relationship going..he/she has changed and he/she gonna stay how he/she is now and theres nothing you can do about it but accept it and move on.





3.if your in a fight with a friend..sit and think what the both of you are actually mad about and if it's something little and stupid laugh about it and talk to him/her. if it's something more serious then that then really sit and think about if you want to loose this person and what kind of person they are and are they gonna make you happy when around them...is the fight really worth loosing a friend over!?





4. drifting away from a friend can be really hard but you've obviously both changing and you need to be honest with your friend no matter what..they might be hurt but they will respect you more for telling them the truth and not faking it..but make sure you nice when talking to him/her.





5.this is for shy and insecure people. for many ppl this is just a phase and for some they might always be shy and some people may even rely on drinking to loosen up but that's not always a good idea..your a different person when your drunk and the impression you leave may not be a good one. this may not help but when trying to talk to someone pretend they were one of your closest friends and you might see things in a different way.





5.everyone deserves a second chance,well i somewhat agree with that..but if someone did something you know would be unforgivable and you think they would do it again then i honestly dont think they deserve a second chance..i give second chances but after that it's done because i know nothing will change..my ex best friend slept with my boyfriend and found out she was prego and it might have been his but she end up having a miscarriage..i eventually forgave the both of them and now me and my boyfriend are closer then ever..me and my ex best friend are still friends but we're not as close as we use to be. it took alot for me to forgive them but i believed they deserved a second chance and i let the both of them know that if they did anything elese to betray me that it would all be done. sometimes you just got to be the better person.





6.if your having family issues of any kind you need to get away and take a long walk before saying anything mean because you might regret it..you never know what could happen these days..they could be gone just like that so just think before you speak and think if you were about to say something mean that that was your last word you said to them...you wouldnt want that to happen..you'd feel awful. i use to call my family every name in the book when they would make me mad but i started to think of that kind of stuff due to family losses and now i've calmed down alot.


family will always bother you and piss you off most of the time but no matter what happens they care and love you and just want the best for you.





7.if your a victim of bullying then you need to talk to people..dont listen to what the bullies got to say becuase if you talk to people about it they wont bother you if something is done.you may be scared to defend yourself because of what they might do but then again they might respect you more for actually standing up to them..your a person and so is the other person and they need to relize how they would feel if it was the other way around.


this is also to girls with guys who abuse them...i dont care how much you say you love them that's no excuse to stay..what do you love about him!? the fact that he's putting his hands on you and treating you bad!? i think your just scared to start something new because you live with that fear but eventually you have to be strong...when calling the cops on an abusive boyfriend do NOT take him back because he will just keep doing it..i was 14 and i was getting abused by a highschool boyfriend and i wish i had this advice back then.you are strong no matter what but staying with him is a stupid choice. dont be afraid to leave him because if the cops are involved there will be pfas and he cant go near you or hurt you becaSo this is more like advice for everyone!?
thanks for sharing...