How do I deal with my boyfriend when he insists on acting like this?

Ok, he was cheating online persay and I found out. He admitted it and begged me not to leave him. We've been together for a long time so I decided to give him another chance. he had been having this online afffair from FEB-MAY and now, after all this drama went down, I am having odd feelings about this relationship. I love him with all my heart and I've done so much for him. I don't see why he would do this to me because I give him everything he could possibly want. He said he just wanted to talk to someone, like a pen pal. But pen-pals don't say the things he was saying, believe me, it was worse than bad. So I don't know what to do, and I'm wondering if he's cheated on me physcally. Someone please give me some advice, I feel like I'm stuck in a giant hole that I can't get out of. Plus I'm afraid that he'll do it again. What do I do?How do I deal with my boyfriend when he insists on acting like this?
I'm not sure if anyone can give you a definitive answer on what to do here. The reason being no one knows for sure what is going on in your boyfriends head and heart for that matter. A lot of people do simply just play online for the simple thrill of it without taking things beyond that point. They do this because it is much easier to pretend and say things to someone you really don't know online compared to doing that with their partner. Ultimately this is about you and what you want for your future and if you can ever really trust him. Trust is very important in a relationship and once you loose that the relationship is doomed. Deep down inside I think you know or have serious suspicions about if he has ever cheated on you physically. Follow your gut instincts on this. If you feel he did and you know you can't trust him then it is time to walk away from this relationship. If not you still have to figure out if you can ever trust him again.How do I deal with my boyfriend when he insists on acting like this?
i dont think you should be treating you lik that. in a relationship its 50-50 give and take but all hes doing is take. hes taking disadvantage of your trust,feelings and he he saying to himself that he have you wrap around his fingers! girl you deserve better than that and trust me hes not gonna know what you mean to him until he lose you. as they say the lord dont give you more than you can bear. you should let him know that girls like you dont come ever day! good luck girl.
ITS NOT CHEETING ITS FANTASIZING I THINK YOUR OVER DRAMATIC ITS JUST FOR FUN ASLONG AS ITS NOT TAKEN TO THE STREET BE HAPPY HES GOT SOMTHING TO DO WHILE YOR BEING A DRAMA QUEEN
Two words, girlfriend.





LEAVE HIM!





Run, don't walk, from this relationship. He cheated on you. You've given everything to him. You don't need that crap, girl. You're strong and in control. You've got a lot to offer a guy. This loser doesn't even have a clue what it means to be in a real relationship.





I know it's terrifying to be single and I know you've been with him so long, he feels like an investment, but think about it. Why would you want to be with someone who treats like you are worthless?





I know you can do it, girl. Say it loud. Say it proud. Hit the road!!!
ok... we all know you love him. HE knows u love him. that is NOT the problem. the problem is that you can't trust him..and u have valid reasons not to. HE needs to work on that, HE needs to build ur trust up again. you've been the committed one. u've done all the work, that's why u feel burnt out. u've done all for him, and gotten nothing back. this is not a healthy relationship. what u need to do is set ur boundaries: what do u expect from ur relationship w/ him?? tell him what u have expected from urself as a good girlfriend, and tell him what u expect from him as a good boyfriend. u need to find out if u have the same goals for eachother... do u want to get married? are u going to be able to marry someone u can't trust? he has to understand that. if he doesn't, or can't change, or keep saying one thing and u can't trust him, u have to let him go. not because u don't love him enough, but because u have to take care of urself too, not just him. u have to be happy too. u have to find someone who Makes you feel safe, secure, loved, wanted and needed. if u don't set those boundaries, u will be miserable. find the confidence in urself, know that u deserve the best. and be the best, so that u are worthy of that guy who is the best.
My gut says he has not ';physically'; cheated, but is looking for more of the fling, with no contact (almost like reading a Playboy magazine). Perhaps you may want to experience it yourself, and then you would know where he is coming from. Not to get back at him, but to understand. I think you two are good, but doing what he did (does) may open your mind more to the situation.
drop him hes a loser !!
It may be painful and you may love him, but you need to terminate the relationship. It might be painful and you'll think you made the wrong choice if you miss him, but he doesn't love you the way he should if he's ';cheating'; on you. And giving him everything he wants wont make a good relationship, then he'll just use you to get what he wants. A relationship is compromises and if he really loves you he wouldn't want you to do all these things for him, and by doing them your probably just making the situation worse. I'm not saying theeres no potential for a good relationship, but you need to at least seperate for a while and see how he changes... Tell him that you need some time apart, and if he just finds someone else in a month, chances are he had little to no feelings for you the person, and only wanted you for what you could do for him.
dump the pig


or


try to make him jealous
i think it just a fantasy for him. If this person is in a another state whats the problem
Cheating on you emotionally, which he has done, is worse to me than cheating physically. Either way, he's cheated on you and your relationship will struggle to recover. You need to really sit down and talk about all of this and you need to be happy with what he says about why it happened and why it's not going to happen in the future. The last thing you want is for him to think he's gotten away with it, but if he doesn't really learn from this and move on from it with you properly that's precisely what he will have done.





As for your having done/given him everything, that's never enough. You can't make someone love you and respect you - they have to do that for themselves.


Remember, you deserve to be happy.
If he can do it online, he can do it anywhere even physically cheat on you. So dump that idiot at once!!
If he is just chatting with someone on the computer what are you worried about..no need to be jelous of the computer ..no reason to be jelous over pictures or magazines or porno flicks it's not like he is really doing them ...now on the other hand if you catch him meeting someone in person and doing something then cut his ******* dick off put it in a blender and serve it back to him as a penis colata....
Sounds as though he doesn't have any respect for you. From what you expressed, you don't trust him anymore. Trust is the key to a healthy relationship. Life is too short for games %26amp; drama. It's best to end the relationship now rather then wait till things really blow out of porportion.
Obviously you don't give him everything he needs, or he wouldn't be looking for it on-line. He's also broken a trust......if you're afraid he'll do it again, you should trust your ';gut'; - no one needs to doubt the person they're committed to. You're not married, and it's probably a good thing.......find someone worthy of your trust!
You 2 obviously have issues that are leading him to cyber sex (if not worse). You should talk it out and see what the problem is. If you feel you no longer trust him then you should move on because if you don't trust him now you won't in 6 months.
There is no real distinction between ';physical'; cheating and any other kind of long range cheating. The fact that he does it means that he wants something different from what you're giving him. You can try to find out what it is that she's offering to him in their online connection so that you can replace it, or you can leave him. Because, at this point he's with you because he'd rather be with you than alone, not because you are anything very special to him.





I'm really sorry. But believe me when I say that there is only one kind of cheating. And your boyfriend did it.
truely there is no real way u can be uterly sure unless he slips up again ........ because he is aware that u know he can just find other ways to go around u ............. u should have waited so that u knew what was going on the entire deal every thing cause i doupt that was as far as he was going ....... there was/ is probably momre things u have yet to consider ........ and the best part is u can't be sure cause it may just be all in ur head if u do suspect some thing but it may also be ligit and the anly way u can find out from him is by confronting him knowing that because u have absolutly no way to prove it should he denie it u have no way to know that is the truth so u r now oficialy stuck in the cycle of distrust that will possibly drive u to your grave as it is curently trying to do to me ....... but what it dosn't know is i am incapable of doing do ...... i would have to find an unsuspecting loony to do it for me ..........
leave him ... if i have a woman like you loving me like this why I'll going to others ... if i did ... I'm a bad man ... now you see ... you fallen in love with bad man ... don't wasting your time ... save your good heart to some one deserve you ... if I'm lucky like him and find woman like you ... I'll be very happy in my life ... i wish to you all thing are good hun.
Well, that is a complicated question. Because If you already gave him a second chance, then that means that you really love him. And if you really love him, then its gonna be hard to let him go. But I think that if you already gave him a second chance, and your still feeling like its not gonna work, then you gotta let him go honey. You麓ll find somebody better for you, thats not gonna do the stuff that he does. Hope I helped.
if he's cheating online he's cheating in person trust me i know that's how my ex bf was cheating o me the same way you need to get rid of this guy love hurts and you may love him to death but it's better to let him go
That's a really bad sign that he was flirting with someone online. Unless you find out exactly why he did this, the problem will not be resolved.
drop the relationship and move on. he will only do it again later down the load and then you would have invested EVEN more into the relationship. just stop it now.
well i would confront him and ask him strait up are you haveing an intimate realationships with that woman


And if he say no the try some couples therapy
drop him!


be strong he will cheat on u again!!!


trust me i no guys luk if he's cheated on you one time what makes u think he wont do it again? i bet this is what he's thinking right now...oh she let me have a second chance i'll just cheat on her shes a loser.
Okay... if he did it online, how can you be sure he didnt do it in person? And what if they met offline even????
Your boyfriend has done the worst for of cheating,let me explain:





When men cheat it is purely physical. Your boyfriend cheated emotionally. When men have affairs they usually are unsatisfied sexually, because your boyfriend cheated on you with an online relationship it means he was emotionally looking for someone else. This means he was using you and looking for something better. He basically cheated like a woman would. This is the worst form of cheating in men, because it's unnaturaul for them to act that way.





Your boyfriend tried to justify the cheating because you let him walk over you. Now he is resenting you because he knows what he did was wrong, but he has no consequence other than you two breaking up.





Because he cheated emotionally and physcially, it shows he doesn't care about the consequence of loosing you. He doesn't love you because hes unsatisfied, and you don't love him because you cant trust him.





If he needed someone to talk to you have no communication in the relationship and he will cheat again, because no matter how hard you try, it will not work.





Leave before he makes it worst for you.
If you can't trust some one 110%, why would you be with him. Just because you love a person doesn't mean you should stay with him. Your boyfriend obviously doesn't love you as much as you love him. If he did love you unconditionally, i don't think he would be having ';affairs';. Its time to cut your ties and be with some one you know you can trust.
tell him your going out with a ';friend'; (guy friend) and he cam talk ALL he wants to his lil online pal. If he is worth anything he'll get jealous and stop or you dump him and call best friend up and cry then find another hottie.
tell him u r going out of his life.
Try to forgive and tell him you wont put up with repeat performances like this. Spice up your own s*x life with toys or lingerie and maybe in different places and more often. Ask him how to make it better-what he wants etc and try to do those things if its within reason. Send him lovenotes yourself. Make her history this way.