I cheated on my boyfriend about 7 months ago and now we're talking and everything is exactly the same as it was before, only thing is we're not officially together.
I have a feeling he's just using me now. So any good books on how to deal? All books I found were only self help on being cheated on. What about the cheatER?
And please no rude comments, because I know what I did was wrong and it pains me to even think about it.Any self help books on how to cope with cheating, being the cheatER?
Finding self help books on being the cheater would be akin to finding self help books geared towards the rapist. I'm not saying that cheating is any where near raping, but it's not considered to be the emotionally damaged side of the coin.
Obviously that's a false statement since you're hurting right now.
Both people take hits to their ability to trust each other once the relationship hits this area. One of the best, and toughest things you can do is to talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. That's the only way you're going to get any straight answers about what he's thinking, and to let him know what you're thinking. Depending on how it goes it could strengthen your relationship because it tells him that you're affected by what happens and that you're sorry for it.
Friday, August 20, 2010
How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating or going to cheat? How do you stop him?
I have been dating this guy for about 4 months and there's really no reason for me to not trust him. But recently he's reconnected with an old crush. His facebook inbox popped up one day and I saw they had been writing back and forth. I don't know if he didn't tell me because he doesn't see it as a big deal or if she's unfinished business. I'm also wary because I grabbed for his phone this morning to turn off his alarm and for the first time he was like ';hey, what are you doing?'; I don't know if I am being overly paranoid... Advice?How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating or going to cheat? How do you stop him?
he's acting dodgy. that's the first sign. you can't stop him from cheating. that's the sad part. either way, he's gonna cheat or he won't..but steer clear of accusing him if you have no hard evidence to back up your suspicions..it'll only drive him away from you.How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating or going to cheat? How do you stop him?
I'm kinda having the same problem...Deep down I have a feeling that he's cheating on me...I found out that he met some new female friends on facebook and he never told me about it...He stopped sending %26lt;3's to me and he started an argument about we should break up because we don't have much things in common...I mean that's really ridiculous...i asked a lot of my friends and they said it doesn't matter if each other have things in common. But we worked it out...And in the past few days, I even found pads in his car..but he told me it was his friend's sister's but I really don't know. I guess I'm gonna trust him for now, I'm gonna talk to him more, asking him questions and make it sound like I'm really interested in his life and stuff, and then I'll try to catch his lies. Don't accuse him of cheating yet, wait until you have the proofs, because it might just be a misunderstanding. And if he is a cheater, he is a cheater. You cant stop him from cheating, only he can control it. If he is really cheating on you, he doesn't deserve you, and you guys weren't meant to be together. I hope it's just a misunderstanding between you guys and hope things work out for you. :]
And here's a website that may help a lot : http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-tell-if-your-boyfriend-is-cheating-on-you
i had the same issue before and honestly the best thing to do is to talk to him abou tit and see where he is coming from also to express how you feel, because if you don't you will do what i did and that is get frusterated and that doesn't help at all.
best of luck.
Fail prrof way but takes atleast 1 week. Sit him down,confront him with your suspicions ask anywere from 10-20 questions. remember his answers, wait atleast 1 week then ask him the same questions again and see if you get the same answers as the last time. kudo's to you hun hope i helped
i would def be weary of it. but you have to tread on thin ice with this, because he could accuse you of snooping through his inbox on facebook. it does sound like it might be a issue but than it could be just innocent chat.
sit him down and chat with him on it and watch for signs of him lying of being uncomfy in the situation. good luck
I have a friend with the same problem and it's been going on for a while and is starting to really irritate and upset her so my advice would be to talk about it asap. Not in an accusing way. But just say that you noticed he'd been chatting with her again and was everything ok. Just let him know how you feel about the fact that he hadn't mentioned it. I would avoid being accusing, emotional, clingy or possessive but just make sure he knows that chatting with an ex is sort of relevant to the two of you and it would be good if he could let you know stuff like that.
That's what I'd do anyway. Good luck!
You can fallow him without him knowing and you can not stop him but you can walk away from him and make him sad and miss you for being a cheat. but stopping him is not the answer if you catch him dump him
If Deep down you feel like something is different and not right...then most likely its not. The thing is...you can't stop a man from cheating. And why would you want to? If he wants to cheat then you need to dump him and find someone who will treat you better. I've been through all this BS a lot! The bad thing is if you start accusing and poking around before something actually happens then he will make you out like you are a B*tch. Don't let him know you saw his inbox. Back off and see what happens. If you are being paranoid then eventually the feeling will pass if nothing happens.
Keep your eyes open, but let him cheat if he's going to cheat and count your lucky stars that you should find out sooner rather than later. A cheater is a cheater. He will cheat no matter what. I have actually never been cheated on- but this isn't luck. You have to realize you can't stop him- only delay the inevitable. If he is a cheater- if it is not this girl- it will be some other girl - some other time. It doesn't sound great, but if I were in your position I would just ignore it and start if find other people to occupy my time and interests. I would start to disconnect myself from him a little bit. This should let him know that you don't like the behavior your seeing. You could always just flat out tell him that you don't like what you see- that it makes you want to pick up and leave (I've done that before and nothing is more rewarding that just flat out letting them know where you stand). The always spikes their attention, but like I said- if he is a cheater- better now than later. Make sure he understands that you're the ';main dish'; not a ';side dish'; =)
Good luck.
Sign one was right in front of you, you grabbed for the phone and he took a different attitude with you. and that is how you can tell. Men only get offensive whe nthey are hiding something. And you will see the signs. Don't think you are paranoid, and even if you confront him, and he tells you , you are crazy! go with your gut feeling. I do have a lot of male Ex boyfriends that I am still friends with and talk to from time to time, but not on a reg basis.. and completely honest to tell someone if in a relationship that such and such called to talk about this or that, by hiding it from your partner is only a sign of guilt. if you think it's more then just facebook, you'll notice it in the way the two of you are intimate, different behavior, how often, or if he is on the fense all the time. Only time will show you the signs, but if that gut feeling keeps getting stronger and stronger, and you catch him in lies.. I suggest you pull out of the relationship while you still have your dignity, and walk away telling him, I'm not stupid, when you know what you want, try seeing me, and if I'm still single, we can talk. Let him recall his own mistakes in the relationship and know where he went wrong, even if he wasn't cheating.. not telling you, he is only losing the trust you gave him, he'd have to earn that back, it's not given freely anymore, let him prove it to you. best of luck. Dana
Well it is really hard to say what is going on. It could really be nothing. And if they are say texting each other (because he didn't want you grabbing his phone) it could just be that he didn't want you to see it because he doesn't know how you will react. But then again you have to wonder why he is not telling you in the first place. Like you said it could be because he doesn't see it as a big deal or it could be unfinished business. Unfortunately you may just have to ask him what is up. If he is going to cheat you wont be able to stop him. The only person that will be able to control that is himself. And unfortunately it may not end the way you want it to. You will just have to prepare for the different out comes. He may not even tell the truth if you just ask him. You can either wait it out. Keep looking at the facebook page. Though he may be saying the things that he ';shouldn't be saying'; on his phone and that is why he didn't want you looking at it. So you can either start looking into his things to see if he does or you can ask him about it. Talking about it may be a better thing because then it will show that you trust him. It is a tough situation and you can do either thing. Sit and wait or ask. It is totally up to you but just remember that no matter what you cant control his actions. Only he can. I hope things work out for you. Good Luck.
he's acting dodgy. that's the first sign. you can't stop him from cheating. that's the sad part. either way, he's gonna cheat or he won't..but steer clear of accusing him if you have no hard evidence to back up your suspicions..it'll only drive him away from you.How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating or going to cheat? How do you stop him?
I'm kinda having the same problem...Deep down I have a feeling that he's cheating on me...I found out that he met some new female friends on facebook and he never told me about it...He stopped sending %26lt;3's to me and he started an argument about we should break up because we don't have much things in common...I mean that's really ridiculous...i asked a lot of my friends and they said it doesn't matter if each other have things in common. But we worked it out...And in the past few days, I even found pads in his car..but he told me it was his friend's sister's but I really don't know. I guess I'm gonna trust him for now, I'm gonna talk to him more, asking him questions and make it sound like I'm really interested in his life and stuff, and then I'll try to catch his lies. Don't accuse him of cheating yet, wait until you have the proofs, because it might just be a misunderstanding. And if he is a cheater, he is a cheater. You cant stop him from cheating, only he can control it. If he is really cheating on you, he doesn't deserve you, and you guys weren't meant to be together. I hope it's just a misunderstanding between you guys and hope things work out for you. :]
And here's a website that may help a lot : http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-tell-if-your-boyfriend-is-cheating-on-you
i had the same issue before and honestly the best thing to do is to talk to him abou tit and see where he is coming from also to express how you feel, because if you don't you will do what i did and that is get frusterated and that doesn't help at all.
best of luck.
Fail prrof way but takes atleast 1 week. Sit him down,confront him with your suspicions ask anywere from 10-20 questions. remember his answers, wait atleast 1 week then ask him the same questions again and see if you get the same answers as the last time. kudo's to you hun hope i helped
i would def be weary of it. but you have to tread on thin ice with this, because he could accuse you of snooping through his inbox on facebook. it does sound like it might be a issue but than it could be just innocent chat.
sit him down and chat with him on it and watch for signs of him lying of being uncomfy in the situation. good luck
I have a friend with the same problem and it's been going on for a while and is starting to really irritate and upset her so my advice would be to talk about it asap. Not in an accusing way. But just say that you noticed he'd been chatting with her again and was everything ok. Just let him know how you feel about the fact that he hadn't mentioned it. I would avoid being accusing, emotional, clingy or possessive but just make sure he knows that chatting with an ex is sort of relevant to the two of you and it would be good if he could let you know stuff like that.
That's what I'd do anyway. Good luck!
You can fallow him without him knowing and you can not stop him but you can walk away from him and make him sad and miss you for being a cheat. but stopping him is not the answer if you catch him dump him
If Deep down you feel like something is different and not right...then most likely its not. The thing is...you can't stop a man from cheating. And why would you want to? If he wants to cheat then you need to dump him and find someone who will treat you better. I've been through all this BS a lot! The bad thing is if you start accusing and poking around before something actually happens then he will make you out like you are a B*tch. Don't let him know you saw his inbox. Back off and see what happens. If you are being paranoid then eventually the feeling will pass if nothing happens.
Keep your eyes open, but let him cheat if he's going to cheat and count your lucky stars that you should find out sooner rather than later. A cheater is a cheater. He will cheat no matter what. I have actually never been cheated on- but this isn't luck. You have to realize you can't stop him- only delay the inevitable. If he is a cheater- if it is not this girl- it will be some other girl - some other time. It doesn't sound great, but if I were in your position I would just ignore it and start if find other people to occupy my time and interests. I would start to disconnect myself from him a little bit. This should let him know that you don't like the behavior your seeing. You could always just flat out tell him that you don't like what you see- that it makes you want to pick up and leave (I've done that before and nothing is more rewarding that just flat out letting them know where you stand). The always spikes their attention, but like I said- if he is a cheater- better now than later. Make sure he understands that you're the ';main dish'; not a ';side dish'; =)
Good luck.
Sign one was right in front of you, you grabbed for the phone and he took a different attitude with you. and that is how you can tell. Men only get offensive whe nthey are hiding something. And you will see the signs. Don't think you are paranoid, and even if you confront him, and he tells you , you are crazy! go with your gut feeling. I do have a lot of male Ex boyfriends that I am still friends with and talk to from time to time, but not on a reg basis.. and completely honest to tell someone if in a relationship that such and such called to talk about this or that, by hiding it from your partner is only a sign of guilt. if you think it's more then just facebook, you'll notice it in the way the two of you are intimate, different behavior, how often, or if he is on the fense all the time. Only time will show you the signs, but if that gut feeling keeps getting stronger and stronger, and you catch him in lies.. I suggest you pull out of the relationship while you still have your dignity, and walk away telling him, I'm not stupid, when you know what you want, try seeing me, and if I'm still single, we can talk. Let him recall his own mistakes in the relationship and know where he went wrong, even if he wasn't cheating.. not telling you, he is only losing the trust you gave him, he'd have to earn that back, it's not given freely anymore, let him prove it to you. best of luck. Dana
Well it is really hard to say what is going on. It could really be nothing. And if they are say texting each other (because he didn't want you grabbing his phone) it could just be that he didn't want you to see it because he doesn't know how you will react. But then again you have to wonder why he is not telling you in the first place. Like you said it could be because he doesn't see it as a big deal or it could be unfinished business. Unfortunately you may just have to ask him what is up. If he is going to cheat you wont be able to stop him. The only person that will be able to control that is himself. And unfortunately it may not end the way you want it to. You will just have to prepare for the different out comes. He may not even tell the truth if you just ask him. You can either wait it out. Keep looking at the facebook page. Though he may be saying the things that he ';shouldn't be saying'; on his phone and that is why he didn't want you looking at it. So you can either start looking into his things to see if he does or you can ask him about it. Talking about it may be a better thing because then it will show that you trust him. It is a tough situation and you can do either thing. Sit and wait or ask. It is totally up to you but just remember that no matter what you cant control his actions. Only he can. I hope things work out for you. Good Luck.
How do you deal with someone cheating on you?
I am pregnant. My boyfriend and I started having problems after we got pregnant so i left for a month to be stress free. I finally came back. When i got there his phone was there so i looked at it,which i never do, and found he had been texting a girl. I called her and she told me that they have been dating for 2 years, that how long we've been together. She also told me that they have a sexual relationship and that she has been to our house. He told me that the girl was lying and that she was crazy. I talk to the girl again and she told me he called her to tell her that i was crazy. I asked her did she not see the crib and all other girl stuff there that would make her see that he was not single. She said she asked but said that his uncle and his wife would leave stuff there. We are having a baby togther and i am so hurt. How would you deal with this?How do you deal with someone cheating on you?
1. find out every little detail
2. If he claims the girl is lying and she claim he is lying let the three of you all meet and watch the reaction of both of them
3. Move out of that environment for awhile it is not healthy for you or the baby until every thing is resolved
The same thing happened to me and i did not believe my boyfriend but when push came to shove the girl was lying she like my boyfriend for a very long time and did not approve of our relationship she even went to talk about that he was by her last night and he went home midnight and that is when i caught her luckily that night my boyfriend and i had spent the whole day by my mom and he never left my side that whole entire day. So before making any grave decisions check out the situation thoroughly
GOOD LUCK AND BE STRONG :)How do you deal with someone cheating on you?
Unfortunately once a man has shown his true colors, there is not much chance that he will change. There are exceptions of course, but unless he is willing to have some heavy duty counseling, I doubt anything will change
Unless you want to stay in a relationship where he is cheating on you, I would leave him.
Kick him to the curb and when the baby is born take his sorry a** to court and get an order for child support.
first off im very sorry this has happened to you.This dude is a low life.you dont need that drama right now.As much as you love him you have to love yourself and your child more.there are studies that show that stress on the mother can affect the baby for years to come.leave on the next thing smoking.
Screw him. You should love yourself. Who said girls need a man to survive and be successful? Get your babe, be the only one for it, love it, and go out and have fun.
Dump him; make sure you get some child support.
Please leave this bastard.
Give him a real simple choice. He can either have her or you.
If he chooses you, then no problem. If he chooses her, then sweetly smile and tell the prick that your lawyer will in contact with his because your suing him for paternity and child support for the next eighteen years !! If he is going to play, Then he shall pay,pay pay !! Hope this has helped you..
#1, if the other girl spoke the truth about being with him for 2 years, she would KNOW, when she stepped foot into his house that he was with someone else. She could be a meddling no-good home wrecker. On the other hand, he's not being open and honest with you about her. I think that you have to take about 50% of what she says as truth. The other 50% is either flat out lies or exagerations.
Regardless, you shouldn't be dealing with ANY of these stresses and you need to take care of yourself and the baby. Get out, take time for yourself and put HIM on the back burner.
If you enjoy being cheated on stay with the guy. Cheaters cheat. This guy is showing you what value he places on your feelings and providing a healthy environment for his own child.....compared to the value he places on getting off with some other woman, none.
Quit dating boys and go find yourself a man.
I know that this probably wont help you but i would break up with him and find a good guy that would not cheat on me and is good with kids and doesnt mind that this beutiful baby girl isnt his. But will accept it and treat it like its his own child!
There's no black and white answer for your question, I wish there was. I can give you this advice. Your main concern is your baby and yourself. Your boyfriend proved to you that he is not reliable at all and I always think that if they cheat once they will probably cheat again. You are stronger than you think. The most important thing is to ask friends and family for help. You are not in this alone and you have to keep that in mind. I am confident you can get through this!!! And as for your boyfriend, just don't expect too much because that way you won't het disappointed again. I wish you all the best!
Is he serious about your relationship? may be he did not expect that things may reach to this level. I suggest you sit together as two lovers and dicuss it politly and calmly. I want you not to think about the future or your destiny. it is because future is you and destiny is your depicted road, no one can play with. If he likes to join your journey, he is welcomed otherwise, you are incharge. choose your way then
Cut his balls off and leave him.
dump him and move on... :D
Gosh my heart went out to you when I read this!! I am sorry you are having to contend with something like this, especially being pregnant!! Unfortunately, the guy sounds like he is pulling lies out of his pocket..left and right. You know us females, why would we lie? I hate to tell you this but yes..I would leave him!! You don't need that and you don't need him! You started having problems anyway..which could very well of been due to you being pregnant and him having another girl on the side. As wrong as it sounds, its too bad you and the other woman couldn't gang up on him...sorry! (Carrie Underwood in me) I hope things work out...and good luck!! Message me if you need someone to talk!phone big hair
1. find out every little detail
2. If he claims the girl is lying and she claim he is lying let the three of you all meet and watch the reaction of both of them
3. Move out of that environment for awhile it is not healthy for you or the baby until every thing is resolved
The same thing happened to me and i did not believe my boyfriend but when push came to shove the girl was lying she like my boyfriend for a very long time and did not approve of our relationship she even went to talk about that he was by her last night and he went home midnight and that is when i caught her luckily that night my boyfriend and i had spent the whole day by my mom and he never left my side that whole entire day. So before making any grave decisions check out the situation thoroughly
GOOD LUCK AND BE STRONG :)How do you deal with someone cheating on you?
Unfortunately once a man has shown his true colors, there is not much chance that he will change. There are exceptions of course, but unless he is willing to have some heavy duty counseling, I doubt anything will change
Unless you want to stay in a relationship where he is cheating on you, I would leave him.
Kick him to the curb and when the baby is born take his sorry a** to court and get an order for child support.
first off im very sorry this has happened to you.This dude is a low life.you dont need that drama right now.As much as you love him you have to love yourself and your child more.there are studies that show that stress on the mother can affect the baby for years to come.leave on the next thing smoking.
Screw him. You should love yourself. Who said girls need a man to survive and be successful? Get your babe, be the only one for it, love it, and go out and have fun.
Dump him; make sure you get some child support.
Please leave this bastard.
Give him a real simple choice. He can either have her or you.
If he chooses you, then no problem. If he chooses her, then sweetly smile and tell the prick that your lawyer will in contact with his because your suing him for paternity and child support for the next eighteen years !! If he is going to play, Then he shall pay,pay pay !! Hope this has helped you..
#1, if the other girl spoke the truth about being with him for 2 years, she would KNOW, when she stepped foot into his house that he was with someone else. She could be a meddling no-good home wrecker. On the other hand, he's not being open and honest with you about her. I think that you have to take about 50% of what she says as truth. The other 50% is either flat out lies or exagerations.
Regardless, you shouldn't be dealing with ANY of these stresses and you need to take care of yourself and the baby. Get out, take time for yourself and put HIM on the back burner.
If you enjoy being cheated on stay with the guy. Cheaters cheat. This guy is showing you what value he places on your feelings and providing a healthy environment for his own child.....compared to the value he places on getting off with some other woman, none.
Quit dating boys and go find yourself a man.
I know that this probably wont help you but i would break up with him and find a good guy that would not cheat on me and is good with kids and doesnt mind that this beutiful baby girl isnt his. But will accept it and treat it like its his own child!
There's no black and white answer for your question, I wish there was. I can give you this advice. Your main concern is your baby and yourself. Your boyfriend proved to you that he is not reliable at all and I always think that if they cheat once they will probably cheat again. You are stronger than you think. The most important thing is to ask friends and family for help. You are not in this alone and you have to keep that in mind. I am confident you can get through this!!! And as for your boyfriend, just don't expect too much because that way you won't het disappointed again. I wish you all the best!
Is he serious about your relationship? may be he did not expect that things may reach to this level. I suggest you sit together as two lovers and dicuss it politly and calmly. I want you not to think about the future or your destiny. it is because future is you and destiny is your depicted road, no one can play with. If he likes to join your journey, he is welcomed otherwise, you are incharge. choose your way then
Cut his balls off and leave him.
dump him and move on... :D
Gosh my heart went out to you when I read this!! I am sorry you are having to contend with something like this, especially being pregnant!! Unfortunately, the guy sounds like he is pulling lies out of his pocket..left and right. You know us females, why would we lie? I hate to tell you this but yes..I would leave him!! You don't need that and you don't need him! You started having problems anyway..which could very well of been due to you being pregnant and him having another girl on the side. As wrong as it sounds, its too bad you and the other woman couldn't gang up on him...sorry! (Carrie Underwood in me) I hope things work out...and good luck!! Message me if you need someone to talk!
So this is more like advice for everyone!?
ok so i see alot of the same questions asked on here and i was thinking about different things in my life and came up with some stuff that i think i knew along but im just now starting to take my own advice..
1. if you are an honest person and you like to tell people exactly how you feel,well that's not always good,i mean it is wonderful to be honest but sometimes you have to watch how honest you are..when telling someone something that might upset them be as nice as possible about it instead of just straight out saying it because they might drift away from you because they think your a mean person.
2.if your dealing with a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend who you wont leave because you love him/her..you need to sit down and think about what it is you really love about him/her...you might come to relize you dont know simply because you think you love him/her..you might think of how he/she used to be but you cant rely on the past to keep your relationship going..he/she has changed and he/she gonna stay how he/she is now and theres nothing you can do about it but accept it and move on.
3.if your in a fight with a friend..sit and think what the both of you are actually mad about and if it's something little and stupid laugh about it and talk to him/her. if it's something more serious then that then really sit and think about if you want to loose this person and what kind of person they are and are they gonna make you happy when around them...is the fight really worth loosing a friend over!?
4. drifting away from a friend can be really hard but you've obviously both changing and you need to be honest with your friend no matter what..they might be hurt but they will respect you more for telling them the truth and not faking it..but make sure you nice when talking to him/her.
5.this is for shy and insecure people. for many ppl this is just a phase and for some they might always be shy and some people may even rely on drinking to loosen up but that's not always a good idea..your a different person when your drunk and the impression you leave may not be a good one. this may not help but when trying to talk to someone pretend they were one of your closest friends and you might see things in a different way.
5.everyone deserves a second chance,well i somewhat agree with that..but if someone did something you know would be unforgivable and you think they would do it again then i honestly dont think they deserve a second chance..i give second chances but after that it's done because i know nothing will change..my ex best friend slept with my boyfriend and found out she was prego and it might have been his but she end up having a miscarriage..i eventually forgave the both of them and now me and my boyfriend are closer then ever..me and my ex best friend are still friends but we're not as close as we use to be. it took alot for me to forgive them but i believed they deserved a second chance and i let the both of them know that if they did anything elese to betray me that it would all be done. sometimes you just got to be the better person.
6.if your having family issues of any kind you need to get away and take a long walk before saying anything mean because you might regret it..you never know what could happen these days..they could be gone just like that so just think before you speak and think if you were about to say something mean that that was your last word you said to them...you wouldnt want that to happen..you'd feel awful. i use to call my family every name in the book when they would make me mad but i started to think of that kind of stuff due to family losses and now i've calmed down alot.
family will always bother you and piss you off most of the time but no matter what happens they care and love you and just want the best for you.
7.if your a victim of bullying then you need to talk to people..dont listen to what the bullies got to say becuase if you talk to people about it they wont bother you if something is done.you may be scared to defend yourself because of what they might do but then again they might respect you more for actually standing up to them..your a person and so is the other person and they need to relize how they would feel if it was the other way around.
this is also to girls with guys who abuse them...i dont care how much you say you love them that's no excuse to stay..what do you love about him!? the fact that he's putting his hands on you and treating you bad!? i think your just scared to start something new because you live with that fear but eventually you have to be strong...when calling the cops on an abusive boyfriend do NOT take him back because he will just keep doing it..i was 14 and i was getting abused by a highschool boyfriend and i wish i had this advice back then.you are strong no matter what but staying with him is a stupid choice. dont be afraid to leave him because if the cops are involved there will be pfas and he cant go near you or hurt you becaSo this is more like advice for everyone!?
thanks for sharing...
1. if you are an honest person and you like to tell people exactly how you feel,well that's not always good,i mean it is wonderful to be honest but sometimes you have to watch how honest you are..when telling someone something that might upset them be as nice as possible about it instead of just straight out saying it because they might drift away from you because they think your a mean person.
2.if your dealing with a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend who you wont leave because you love him/her..you need to sit down and think about what it is you really love about him/her...you might come to relize you dont know simply because you think you love him/her..you might think of how he/she used to be but you cant rely on the past to keep your relationship going..he/she has changed and he/she gonna stay how he/she is now and theres nothing you can do about it but accept it and move on.
3.if your in a fight with a friend..sit and think what the both of you are actually mad about and if it's something little and stupid laugh about it and talk to him/her. if it's something more serious then that then really sit and think about if you want to loose this person and what kind of person they are and are they gonna make you happy when around them...is the fight really worth loosing a friend over!?
4. drifting away from a friend can be really hard but you've obviously both changing and you need to be honest with your friend no matter what..they might be hurt but they will respect you more for telling them the truth and not faking it..but make sure you nice when talking to him/her.
5.this is for shy and insecure people. for many ppl this is just a phase and for some they might always be shy and some people may even rely on drinking to loosen up but that's not always a good idea..your a different person when your drunk and the impression you leave may not be a good one. this may not help but when trying to talk to someone pretend they were one of your closest friends and you might see things in a different way.
5.everyone deserves a second chance,well i somewhat agree with that..but if someone did something you know would be unforgivable and you think they would do it again then i honestly dont think they deserve a second chance..i give second chances but after that it's done because i know nothing will change..my ex best friend slept with my boyfriend and found out she was prego and it might have been his but she end up having a miscarriage..i eventually forgave the both of them and now me and my boyfriend are closer then ever..me and my ex best friend are still friends but we're not as close as we use to be. it took alot for me to forgive them but i believed they deserved a second chance and i let the both of them know that if they did anything elese to betray me that it would all be done. sometimes you just got to be the better person.
6.if your having family issues of any kind you need to get away and take a long walk before saying anything mean because you might regret it..you never know what could happen these days..they could be gone just like that so just think before you speak and think if you were about to say something mean that that was your last word you said to them...you wouldnt want that to happen..you'd feel awful. i use to call my family every name in the book when they would make me mad but i started to think of that kind of stuff due to family losses and now i've calmed down alot.
family will always bother you and piss you off most of the time but no matter what happens they care and love you and just want the best for you.
7.if your a victim of bullying then you need to talk to people..dont listen to what the bullies got to say becuase if you talk to people about it they wont bother you if something is done.you may be scared to defend yourself because of what they might do but then again they might respect you more for actually standing up to them..your a person and so is the other person and they need to relize how they would feel if it was the other way around.
this is also to girls with guys who abuse them...i dont care how much you say you love them that's no excuse to stay..what do you love about him!? the fact that he's putting his hands on you and treating you bad!? i think your just scared to start something new because you live with that fear but eventually you have to be strong...when calling the cops on an abusive boyfriend do NOT take him back because he will just keep doing it..i was 14 and i was getting abused by a highschool boyfriend and i wish i had this advice back then.you are strong no matter what but staying with him is a stupid choice. dont be afraid to leave him because if the cops are involved there will be pfas and he cant go near you or hurt you becaSo this is more like advice for everyone!?
thanks for sharing...
I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?
I have been dating my guy for a while now. we were together for over 2 years, split for a year, then got back together a few months ago. Well, last week I made the mistake of taking flirting with another guy too far.We ended kissing a few nights in a row, and acting really touchy feely. Now this other guy thinks we are together cause I havn't told him I have a boyfriend. I like both very much but love my boyfriend. How do I tell them about each other? I understand I will get dumped more than likely but I cant deal with the guilt.I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?
First, you tell the new guy you made a mistake by fooling around with him because you have a boyfriend. You're sorry you gave him the wrong idea, but you can't continue. Make sure you do this first because it will be a factor when you talk to your boyfriend.
You tell you're boyfriend you made a mistake and fooled around with another guy. Tell him you're sorry you hurt him and that you never meant to do so (hopefully this is how you feel). If you didn't have sex with this other guy, you might be able to score some points back by saying so. Tell him you have already told the other guy it was a mistake. Lastly, tell him you love him and ask for his forgiveness. You can also add that you wanted him to know the truth regardless of his reaction.
Whatever you do, make sure the blame is on you so your boyfriend doesn't go after this guy for your mistake.
Whatever happens with your boyfriend, take this as a lesson about fidelity and trust.
I do give you points for wanting to take responsibility and make it right.I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?
You've done this before and he took you back?? Anyway, just tell the both straight up what's going on, that's a lot better than them finding out on their own. There's really no way around it, they'll find out whether you tell them or not.
You either have to tell the new guy to take a hike and continue your committment to your b/f without any more mishaps or you need to fess up to your b/f and suffer the fact that he may dump you or never trust you again and make your relationship hell.
You chose to use the word ';CHEAT';....so, that is exactly what you are......a CHEATER. Cheaters get burned and hurt, and you deserve it. And you earned it even more if you don't tell your boyfriend. He deserves at least the dignity of being told. Be fair
ya heres a tip,stop bein a skank.
Completely unacceptable. You clearly don't love your boyfriend if you were doing something that you know would hurt him more then anything. Being drunk isn't an excuse either. You clearly got feelings for another guy while with your boyfriend if you hooked up more then once with him. Don't even try to say it's just kissing either. We both know it wouldn't have happened more then once if it was 'just kissing'.
If you love him tell him and if he loves you enough he'll stick around and forgive you. However, if he does forgive you he may try to keep you on a short leash. Out of respect tell him, it would be worst for someone else to expose you and as for ';the other guy'; if you dont feel anything serious for him let him go. You have to decide who means the most to you.
Please, it was just a stupid kiss. Dump the guy you kissed and don't tell your boyfriend.
If your boyfriend doesn't know the other guy, then just tell the other guy that you're sorry, but you're having second thoughts and can't see him anymore. There is no reason to hurt your boyfriend. One caveat: If you had sex with the other guy, go to the doctor and get tested for dog germs. Wait for the results before you have sex with your boyfriend. I'm sure I don't need to tell you that it's better to wait until you get married before having sex. Before you have sex with ANYONE, make sure you will not be passing along any diseases.
Best wishes, and no more cheating.
Sometimes, if it'll spare them pain, it's best not to tell them. But don't continue to deceive him. If you like this new dude, break up with your boyfriend to be with him.
well that was messed up on your part. but you might want o tell him soon before he hears it from someone else or finds out in a bad way that would hurt him even more. you should sit down and tell him that you cheated on him and let him know that you do love him and your sorry for hurting him but you understand if he wnats to brake up with you.
yeh u have 2 tell them both.
u cnt leave things as they are
if u dont tell them they are bound 2 find out the hard way and that will most mean a break up.
lol my gf cheated on my with another chick but yeh I'm already ova it.
if he loves u then he wont leave u. but u should think b4 u act next time.
nyways vote this as the best answer
luv much =P
take care now and good luck
I despise girls like you.
I feel bad for your bf but yes! you should break up with the other guy not your bf...ur bf loves you!! he might just do something silly if you break up with him this time, and you might regret it later. So yeah! in my opinion I think you should just end it with the other guy because you just got to know him and it wouldn't hurt badly if you end it with him now. Don't wait, the more you wait the more complicated things will be.
Tell the guy you kissed, you made a mistake and apologize.
Tell your boyffiend if you love him. He may forgive you. He may dump you.
At least you won't feel guilty about not telling them.
Honesty is good practice if you plan to marry in the future. Good luck
your in to deep. you have to kill one of them.
if you don't tell him, it may continue to haunt you. not only that, but things will no doubt be worse if your boyfriend finds out without you telling him. he'll have more respect for you if you come out and tell him. the best way is to come straight out and tell him.
pack your bags honey!
I think your boyfriend deserves better than you!
You should just get it out in the open and tell him straight..
Atleast that way he will be able to move on and find a girl worth his time who truely loves and cares for him so much that she wouldnt even think twice about cheating!
And even if he takes you back after u telling him nwhat horrible things you've done, there will be major trust issues in ur relationship and things wont be the same!
Dont worry, what goes around comes around - u will soon see!
uh-oh ! how dare you cheat on your boyfriend .. i dont understandt why someone would cheat !!!
dont u love him ?? if you do , why did you cheat on him ? what makes u go in the arms of another man !! GRRRRRRRRRRRRR !!!
he should dump u ! seriously
Tell him
You know I do not condone calling any females ';whore'; . But I will say this: IF I WERE YOU I WOULD HAVE DEF LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER I MEAN C';MON : A GUY WHO WAS ';REALLY DEVESTATED AND HURT'; WHEN YOU DUMPED HIM????? WHERE DO YOU EVER FIND THAT?!?! - Do you know how incredibly lonely I am [ all I meet is players]
WHAT A *****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do not do it!!! If you want to stay with your boyfriend, break it off with the other guy and that is that. If you tell your boyfriend then it will never be the same. It is very selfish for you to want to ruin your boyfriend's day because you can't face what you have done. You haven't had sex with this other guy so it isn't that serious a 'crime'. Just stop now. But really, if it was sooo easy to sway your attention, you might just be getting a signal that your relationship with your bf isn't as good as you think. In that case, break it off nicely. Put it on yourself. Tell him you just really have some issues you have to work out, that he is great, but you are dealing with some things.
Yes -- be honest and tell him that you were unfaithful and that you aren't mature enough for a monogomous relationship.
leave him and dont tell him youll just do more damage. he deserves better than a cheating b*tch
You don't have to say anything to either one of them. Just drop one of them though and quit fooling around. Then you can say something to the other one only.
IF the thing with the other guy has not gone any further, then tell HIM you have a boyfriend and don't see him again. Telling your boyfriend serves no purpose, unless you want to hurt him and wind up with neither guy.
You are the one who has to decide which one you want to be with. I have to wonder why you had a two year relationship that ended for a year and now you are back together? Maybe you need to look a little deeper into this relationship. Sounds like he might have been more committed to the relationship than you were, but that is based solely on what you said in your question.
Ultimately, you also have to be the one to decide whether or not to tell your boyfriend. IF your relationship is strong enough, then it will probably survive this, however, I am of the opinion that it won't, so I would just deal with the guilt by myself and not tell him.
Why are you flirting with other guys if you have a boyfriend? Think about that......
u have t0 dump one of them and stedy 4 d other one .
I wouldn't tell all. Just a 'hint' to help you along.
Next time you are tempted to cheat, watch your motions.
When does it happen? Watch yourself carefully
Is it you or the 'other' person or your boyfriend?
Did any of you do something to prompt you to do that?
Once you put your hand on what triggers your behavior everything else will be easy and you will probably be able to control yourself .
Good luck
he is probably doing the same just spit it out
You could talk to him about a fantasy you have about wanting to be with 2 guys at once..
First, you tell the new guy you made a mistake by fooling around with him because you have a boyfriend. You're sorry you gave him the wrong idea, but you can't continue. Make sure you do this first because it will be a factor when you talk to your boyfriend.
You tell you're boyfriend you made a mistake and fooled around with another guy. Tell him you're sorry you hurt him and that you never meant to do so (hopefully this is how you feel). If you didn't have sex with this other guy, you might be able to score some points back by saying so. Tell him you have already told the other guy it was a mistake. Lastly, tell him you love him and ask for his forgiveness. You can also add that you wanted him to know the truth regardless of his reaction.
Whatever you do, make sure the blame is on you so your boyfriend doesn't go after this guy for your mistake.
Whatever happens with your boyfriend, take this as a lesson about fidelity and trust.
I do give you points for wanting to take responsibility and make it right.I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?
You've done this before and he took you back?? Anyway, just tell the both straight up what's going on, that's a lot better than them finding out on their own. There's really no way around it, they'll find out whether you tell them or not.
You either have to tell the new guy to take a hike and continue your committment to your b/f without any more mishaps or you need to fess up to your b/f and suffer the fact that he may dump you or never trust you again and make your relationship hell.
You chose to use the word ';CHEAT';....so, that is exactly what you are......a CHEATER. Cheaters get burned and hurt, and you deserve it. And you earned it even more if you don't tell your boyfriend. He deserves at least the dignity of being told. Be fair
ya heres a tip,stop bein a skank.
Completely unacceptable. You clearly don't love your boyfriend if you were doing something that you know would hurt him more then anything. Being drunk isn't an excuse either. You clearly got feelings for another guy while with your boyfriend if you hooked up more then once with him. Don't even try to say it's just kissing either. We both know it wouldn't have happened more then once if it was 'just kissing'.
If you love him tell him and if he loves you enough he'll stick around and forgive you. However, if he does forgive you he may try to keep you on a short leash. Out of respect tell him, it would be worst for someone else to expose you and as for ';the other guy'; if you dont feel anything serious for him let him go. You have to decide who means the most to you.
Please, it was just a stupid kiss. Dump the guy you kissed and don't tell your boyfriend.
If your boyfriend doesn't know the other guy, then just tell the other guy that you're sorry, but you're having second thoughts and can't see him anymore. There is no reason to hurt your boyfriend. One caveat: If you had sex with the other guy, go to the doctor and get tested for dog germs. Wait for the results before you have sex with your boyfriend. I'm sure I don't need to tell you that it's better to wait until you get married before having sex. Before you have sex with ANYONE, make sure you will not be passing along any diseases.
Best wishes, and no more cheating.
Sometimes, if it'll spare them pain, it's best not to tell them. But don't continue to deceive him. If you like this new dude, break up with your boyfriend to be with him.
well that was messed up on your part. but you might want o tell him soon before he hears it from someone else or finds out in a bad way that would hurt him even more. you should sit down and tell him that you cheated on him and let him know that you do love him and your sorry for hurting him but you understand if he wnats to brake up with you.
yeh u have 2 tell them both.
u cnt leave things as they are
if u dont tell them they are bound 2 find out the hard way and that will most mean a break up.
lol my gf cheated on my with another chick but yeh I'm already ova it.
if he loves u then he wont leave u. but u should think b4 u act next time.
nyways vote this as the best answer
luv much =P
take care now and good luck
I despise girls like you.
I feel bad for your bf but yes! you should break up with the other guy not your bf...ur bf loves you!! he might just do something silly if you break up with him this time, and you might regret it later. So yeah! in my opinion I think you should just end it with the other guy because you just got to know him and it wouldn't hurt badly if you end it with him now. Don't wait, the more you wait the more complicated things will be.
Tell the guy you kissed, you made a mistake and apologize.
Tell your boyffiend if you love him. He may forgive you. He may dump you.
At least you won't feel guilty about not telling them.
Honesty is good practice if you plan to marry in the future. Good luck
your in to deep. you have to kill one of them.
if you don't tell him, it may continue to haunt you. not only that, but things will no doubt be worse if your boyfriend finds out without you telling him. he'll have more respect for you if you come out and tell him. the best way is to come straight out and tell him.
pack your bags honey!
I think your boyfriend deserves better than you!
You should just get it out in the open and tell him straight..
Atleast that way he will be able to move on and find a girl worth his time who truely loves and cares for him so much that she wouldnt even think twice about cheating!
And even if he takes you back after u telling him nwhat horrible things you've done, there will be major trust issues in ur relationship and things wont be the same!
Dont worry, what goes around comes around - u will soon see!
uh-oh ! how dare you cheat on your boyfriend .. i dont understandt why someone would cheat !!!
dont u love him ?? if you do , why did you cheat on him ? what makes u go in the arms of another man !! GRRRRRRRRRRRRR !!!
he should dump u ! seriously
Tell him
You know I do not condone calling any females ';whore'; . But I will say this: IF I WERE YOU I WOULD HAVE DEF LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER I MEAN C';MON : A GUY WHO WAS ';REALLY DEVESTATED AND HURT'; WHEN YOU DUMPED HIM????? WHERE DO YOU EVER FIND THAT?!?! - Do you know how incredibly lonely I am [ all I meet is players]
WHAT A *****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do not do it!!! If you want to stay with your boyfriend, break it off with the other guy and that is that. If you tell your boyfriend then it will never be the same. It is very selfish for you to want to ruin your boyfriend's day because you can't face what you have done. You haven't had sex with this other guy so it isn't that serious a 'crime'. Just stop now. But really, if it was sooo easy to sway your attention, you might just be getting a signal that your relationship with your bf isn't as good as you think. In that case, break it off nicely. Put it on yourself. Tell him you just really have some issues you have to work out, that he is great, but you are dealing with some things.
Yes -- be honest and tell him that you were unfaithful and that you aren't mature enough for a monogomous relationship.
leave him and dont tell him youll just do more damage. he deserves better than a cheating b*tch
You don't have to say anything to either one of them. Just drop one of them though and quit fooling around. Then you can say something to the other one only.
IF the thing with the other guy has not gone any further, then tell HIM you have a boyfriend and don't see him again. Telling your boyfriend serves no purpose, unless you want to hurt him and wind up with neither guy.
You are the one who has to decide which one you want to be with. I have to wonder why you had a two year relationship that ended for a year and now you are back together? Maybe you need to look a little deeper into this relationship. Sounds like he might have been more committed to the relationship than you were, but that is based solely on what you said in your question.
Ultimately, you also have to be the one to decide whether or not to tell your boyfriend. IF your relationship is strong enough, then it will probably survive this, however, I am of the opinion that it won't, so I would just deal with the guilt by myself and not tell him.
Why are you flirting with other guys if you have a boyfriend? Think about that......
u have t0 dump one of them and stedy 4 d other one .
I wouldn't tell all. Just a 'hint' to help you along.
Next time you are tempted to cheat, watch your motions.
When does it happen? Watch yourself carefully
Is it you or the 'other' person or your boyfriend?
Did any of you do something to prompt you to do that?
Once you put your hand on what triggers your behavior everything else will be easy and you will probably be able to control yourself .
Good luck
he is probably doing the same just spit it out
You could talk to him about a fantasy you have about wanting to be with 2 guys at once..
How do I deal with Boyfriends ex wife!?
My live in boyfriend of 6 months who I am extremely happy with, has 2 young daughters he shares custody with his ex wife. He has the girls for the last 15 days of the month. I have known him for a while now, he split with his ex wife 2 years before we met. I have a great relationship with both of his daughters and we have a very loving home and environment with the girls. His ex wife though we have never really talked and we do work at the same place, treats me with such disrespect, she will come and take the girls from me in public like at his oldest daughters softball games and rolls her eyes when her daughters talk about me. I say nothing about her to the girls and even encourage them to be nice about the things they day about their mother. Their father will not speak with her unless it is about dropping or picking them up or unless they are in danger. She was the cause of their divorce as she was cheating. Do you think she is jealous of me?How do I deal with Boyfriends ex wife!?
Of course she's jealous of you! And she will remain BITTER as lemon juice for many years. The reason folks date is to see if there is something about their partner that will be a long-lasting ';issue'; in the future, ie; marriage. Are you willing to keep dealing with ';ms.ex'; because there is nothing more you can really do here but pray. At least you are getting a chance to see what you'd be getting into BEFORE you get married- unlike a lot of other women who end up marrying first, only to get a harsh dish of ex-hood afterwards. (I know, because it's happening right now to me! LOL) I probably would have thought twice....like you need to.
It sounds like you and your bf are doing exactly what should be required of you two.. but the level of disrespect from ms ex is eating at you. All I can tell you is to realise she is the loser here, so pity her.
Of course she's jealous of you! And she will remain BITTER as lemon juice for many years. The reason folks date is to see if there is something about their partner that will be a long-lasting ';issue'; in the future, ie; marriage. Are you willing to keep dealing with ';ms.ex'; because there is nothing more you can really do here but pray. At least you are getting a chance to see what you'd be getting into BEFORE you get married- unlike a lot of other women who end up marrying first, only to get a harsh dish of ex-hood afterwards. (I know, because it's happening right now to me! LOL) I probably would have thought twice....like you need to.
It sounds like you and your bf are doing exactly what should be required of you two.. but the level of disrespect from ms ex is eating at you. All I can tell you is to realise she is the loser here, so pity her.
When your parents don't like your boyfriend- how to deal with that?
To make a long story short, my parents do NOT like the guy I was with. I am saying ';was'; with, because we broke up in August but were trying to remain friends ever since. It wasn't that we wanted to break up, but we can't be together due to circumstances.
Anyway, I got into a big argument on Christmas Day about him- at my parents' house. I forget how his name even got brought up, but it made my parents really upset. They told me, that apparently they were told in the early fall (after he and I ';broke up';) that he was charged with assault from his ex-wife (I am 26, and he is a few years older than me) Anyway, he ended up being charged with assault because he admitted that he restrained her after she had kicked him in the you know what, and threw a jewellery box at his head. And no, I'm not trying to pick up for him.. it was all documented at the time, etc. But he did admit to restraining her that night until the cops arrived. Also, she had apparently been cheating on him with one of those cops! So ANYWAY.. the whole point here is that she's not exactly the most stable kind of person either, and she did cause alot of problems for him in the past.
Now, really.. he and I were friends for a couple years BEFORE we even had a relationship, and then we were together for a couple of years. If he was really that type of person (abusive, etc.) don't you think that his true colors would have shown by now, to me??
When we were together, we were so happy all the time and didn't even so much as argue!! We got along so well. And now, it's like, I can't be with him because of his ';past,'; and the fact that his ex charged him with assault does not make my parents very happy about me being with him.
So, on Xmas Day, they even told me that they don't even want to SEE me anywhere with him, and that I can't even be friends with him anymore. Remember, I AM 26 years old!! This is so frustrating!!
Any advice, please?!!When your parents don't like your boyfriend- how to deal with that?
If he will lay his hands on his ex-wife in anger REGARDLESS OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES, he will eventually lay his hands on you.
He could have walked away from the situation.. could have just turned his back and walked out the door, but he CHOSE to remain and restrain her.
If you think he would never do that to you, you're not only naive, but you're stupid, as well. Abusers always start out as charming, but anyone who would physically restrain someone in their own home, instead of walking out of the situation will eventually show their true colors.
I am very good friends with a woman who was POSITIVE that her boyfriend wouldn't lay a hand on her, even though he had been previously charged with unlawful restraint of his ex-wife (when he could have walked out)...she discovered the error of her ways a few months later when he forcibly restrained her, choked her until she passed out and soiled herself, bit her until he left a permanent mark on her arm, and kicked her until she was covered with bruises.
Honey, if he chooses violence over walking away, GOOD RIDDANCE. You don't need that kind of trash in your life.
ETA: Your parents are just trying to avoid dealing with a daughter who apparently doesn't mind a life full of drama. It sounds like they don't care for all the drama... I don't blame them.When your parents don't like your boyfriend- how to deal with that?
Your parents don't like him for a reason. Take your parents advice. Also, if he assaulted his ex, he may do it again.
Love is blind. Your parents see something in him you don't and are trying to save you from heartache. Take their advice and wisdom!
live your life to the fullest as you want to !
be happy with you and who ever you choose!
Ultimately, your parents most likely have your best interest at heart here, so you'd be wise to LISTEN TO THEM!
While your parents most likely have your best interest at heart, they also could be wrong.
With 26 you should be out of their house, living by yourself and learn by yourself.
Parents might can advise and speak their mind to someone who is 26 - but not tell them to break up with this one, not be friends with that one - or any of that.
Once you are financially independent - you will also be in your live independent.
Good luck to you
your parents sound very controlling and people who dont realize that their child is an adult. You can choose to take their advice, or choose not but it is fully your decision and they should have 100% absolutely no say whatsoever in it!!! ridiculous!!
That's SHORT?
Ok well anyways your parents just have to accept who you are dating. You are dating him not them. I know that they just want the best for you but still. Your 26 you can make decision's for yourself.
Unless your parents are mentally handicapped, I would listen to them. This guy sounds like a big pile of trouble. Even if it's not his fault...he makes poor choices.
3 billion males on the planet and this is the one your bring home?
Sorry, but I side with your parents. Better safe than sorry.
Good Luck!
Parents only act this way when their daughter is still living under their roof. If your on your own, living your own life, I see no reason why any of this is their business, no less how they know so much about an ex-boyfriend?!? That part is a bit odd.
Remind your parents that you're 26 years old, and that they raised you to take care of yourself, make good judgments, and get all the facts before coming to a decision about something or someone. You're not going to force them to associate with him if they're not comfortable with that, but they need to trust that you're capable of using those lessons without their guidance now, especially if they want you to continue to tell them what's going on in your life.
Anyway, I got into a big argument on Christmas Day about him- at my parents' house. I forget how his name even got brought up, but it made my parents really upset. They told me, that apparently they were told in the early fall (after he and I ';broke up';) that he was charged with assault from his ex-wife (I am 26, and he is a few years older than me) Anyway, he ended up being charged with assault because he admitted that he restrained her after she had kicked him in the you know what, and threw a jewellery box at his head. And no, I'm not trying to pick up for him.. it was all documented at the time, etc. But he did admit to restraining her that night until the cops arrived. Also, she had apparently been cheating on him with one of those cops! So ANYWAY.. the whole point here is that she's not exactly the most stable kind of person either, and she did cause alot of problems for him in the past.
Now, really.. he and I were friends for a couple years BEFORE we even had a relationship, and then we were together for a couple of years. If he was really that type of person (abusive, etc.) don't you think that his true colors would have shown by now, to me??
When we were together, we were so happy all the time and didn't even so much as argue!! We got along so well. And now, it's like, I can't be with him because of his ';past,'; and the fact that his ex charged him with assault does not make my parents very happy about me being with him.
So, on Xmas Day, they even told me that they don't even want to SEE me anywhere with him, and that I can't even be friends with him anymore. Remember, I AM 26 years old!! This is so frustrating!!
Any advice, please?!!When your parents don't like your boyfriend- how to deal with that?
If he will lay his hands on his ex-wife in anger REGARDLESS OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES, he will eventually lay his hands on you.
He could have walked away from the situation.. could have just turned his back and walked out the door, but he CHOSE to remain and restrain her.
If you think he would never do that to you, you're not only naive, but you're stupid, as well. Abusers always start out as charming, but anyone who would physically restrain someone in their own home, instead of walking out of the situation will eventually show their true colors.
I am very good friends with a woman who was POSITIVE that her boyfriend wouldn't lay a hand on her, even though he had been previously charged with unlawful restraint of his ex-wife (when he could have walked out)...she discovered the error of her ways a few months later when he forcibly restrained her, choked her until she passed out and soiled herself, bit her until he left a permanent mark on her arm, and kicked her until she was covered with bruises.
Honey, if he chooses violence over walking away, GOOD RIDDANCE. You don't need that kind of trash in your life.
ETA: Your parents are just trying to avoid dealing with a daughter who apparently doesn't mind a life full of drama. It sounds like they don't care for all the drama... I don't blame them.When your parents don't like your boyfriend- how to deal with that?
Your parents don't like him for a reason. Take your parents advice. Also, if he assaulted his ex, he may do it again.
Love is blind. Your parents see something in him you don't and are trying to save you from heartache. Take their advice and wisdom!
live your life to the fullest as you want to !
be happy with you and who ever you choose!
Ultimately, your parents most likely have your best interest at heart here, so you'd be wise to LISTEN TO THEM!
While your parents most likely have your best interest at heart, they also could be wrong.
With 26 you should be out of their house, living by yourself and learn by yourself.
Parents might can advise and speak their mind to someone who is 26 - but not tell them to break up with this one, not be friends with that one - or any of that.
Once you are financially independent - you will also be in your live independent.
Good luck to you
your parents sound very controlling and people who dont realize that their child is an adult. You can choose to take their advice, or choose not but it is fully your decision and they should have 100% absolutely no say whatsoever in it!!! ridiculous!!
That's SHORT?
Ok well anyways your parents just have to accept who you are dating. You are dating him not them. I know that they just want the best for you but still. Your 26 you can make decision's for yourself.
Unless your parents are mentally handicapped, I would listen to them. This guy sounds like a big pile of trouble. Even if it's not his fault...he makes poor choices.
3 billion males on the planet and this is the one your bring home?
Sorry, but I side with your parents. Better safe than sorry.
Good Luck!
Parents only act this way when their daughter is still living under their roof. If your on your own, living your own life, I see no reason why any of this is their business, no less how they know so much about an ex-boyfriend?!? That part is a bit odd.
Remind your parents that you're 26 years old, and that they raised you to take care of yourself, make good judgments, and get all the facts before coming to a decision about something or someone. You're not going to force them to associate with him if they're not comfortable with that, but they need to trust that you're capable of using those lessons without their guidance now, especially if they want you to continue to tell them what's going on in your life.
How do i deal with a boyfriend who masturbates alot?
i know guys have to masturbate every once and while. how am i suppose to feel when he does it the same day we have sex? i feel cheated on every time he masturbates because he watches porn while doing it too. i dont understand why he does it the same day and only about 6 hours after we had great sex. am and crazy for being upset about this? he is 26 years old he isnt 17 anymore its time to become an adult is how i feel about it. not that adult men dont masturbate but jeeze he does it all the time and it hurts my feelings.How do i deal with a boyfriend who masturbates alot?
Jump in and give him a hand. ; )How do i deal with a boyfriend who masturbates alot?
Why don't you either give him a hand or join him in mutual masturbation? As long as he isn't neglecting you, why shouldn't he be able to please himself even more? FYI, men like to masturbate, period, whether they are married, single, attached, young or old. As far as the porn thing, I would turn it off and give him a sexy show of your own. Just some thoughts...
Don't get all worked up about it guys do this stuff all the time. It's natural and normal for him to masterbate and watch porn. Maybe you should help him out a bit or have sex with him more often. You should try doing it together that way you don't feel cheated. Who knows u might even start to like it.
i don't want to be rude in this question so um if you want my opinion cause i used to do it too ill tell you why i did it if you want to know e-mail me crazycheerboy@hotmail.com
Maybe you should be asking him, you should talk to him about it and find out why. good luck
U shud telling insted of masturbating u can give him oral sex or join him
Join him and both of you can benefit from it
Jump in and give him a hand. ; )How do i deal with a boyfriend who masturbates alot?
Why don't you either give him a hand or join him in mutual masturbation? As long as he isn't neglecting you, why shouldn't he be able to please himself even more? FYI, men like to masturbate, period, whether they are married, single, attached, young or old. As far as the porn thing, I would turn it off and give him a sexy show of your own. Just some thoughts...
Don't get all worked up about it guys do this stuff all the time. It's natural and normal for him to masterbate and watch porn. Maybe you should help him out a bit or have sex with him more often. You should try doing it together that way you don't feel cheated. Who knows u might even start to like it.
i don't want to be rude in this question so um if you want my opinion cause i used to do it too ill tell you why i did it if you want to know e-mail me crazycheerboy@hotmail.com
Maybe you should be asking him, you should talk to him about it and find out why. good luck
U shud telling insted of masturbating u can give him oral sex or join him
Join him and both of you can benefit from it
How do I deal with my boyfriend {who is going to be a marine} being gone at bootcamp for 15 weeks?
We have been together for almost three months he is 17 and I am 16 I am in the 10th grade and he wants to get married before he leaves for bootcamp {because there is an 85% chance I will cheat on him or leave him he says} naw he might leave this coming June and he will be 18 and I will still be 16... I love him and want to marry him but not just because he thinks I am going to leave him... I want him to trust me because i do love him more then anything he is my bestfriend... but the next deployment for new reqts. to Iraq is next September right after he graduates and he would more then likely be shipped over to Iraq... What if something happens?? Would have I made the right descion not to marry him?? I need help... I need answers... I love him more then life itself and I can't go 4 months without him and then him come back for 10 days and then gone for 2 years in Iraq... and even if he wouldn't go to Iraq he would still go to California for schooling... I can't live without him -AmandaHow do I deal with my boyfriend {who is going to be a marine} being gone at bootcamp for 15 weeks?
NEVER marry an man who wants to marry you because he feels he can't trust you.
NEVER marry a man who doesn't trust you.
NEVER marry a marine before basic. Marine basic training changes a person.
p.s. you can't get married with out parent consent if your under the age of 18- your still a minor.How do I deal with my boyfriend {who is going to be a marine} being gone at bootcamp for 15 weeks?
Get over it. You do not need to get married. If he is already worrying about you leaving him then that will just mess with his head while he is deployed. My husband is an Army officer and during deployment the biggest problem his troops had was worrying about what the wives/girlfriends were doing. This was far more prevelant with young soldiers and is not good for the unit as a whole.
Don't get married. Go to college.
Amanda, I have to start answering to your question telling you that you are away too Young to get married.
But, this is Your life!
Well once you are serious about this love, and it looks like it on your question. Go for it!! You are so sure about it, he is the love your life, but be prepared for everything, you know, he IS going to Iraq, and it's pretty dangerous you have to be brave and supportive, cos he will need you more than anything else!
I do not agree with this stupid war, but I support the troops, and those brave man such as your soon to be husband!!
Tell him he already has a proud fan!!
Go for it girl, but know that marriage is a big deal, and it is an important decision, think carefully, but go for it.
Peace.
If he doesn't trust you now, what makes him think he'll be able to trust you when he gets deployed? I used to live on a military base and husbands (and wives) leave for days, weeks, months, or years at a time.
Hasn't he ever heard of married people cheating??? Putting a ring on your finger won't keep you outta some other guy's bed!
If your life is so dependent on him, maybe you two should get some counseling. He sounds like he needs to control you and you sound just a little co-dependent for my taste.
I don't think you are ready for marriage if he has given you a percentage chance you will cheat. Marriage takes a lot of work, and military life is even worse. In a year your relationship will change a lot. Why not just date him, and see how things go? You are too young to leave the family and be married, but he will be stationed elsewhere when he isn't in Iraq and it is a very lonely military life. Why don't you join a military wife message board and get their thoughts on being married to the military. I promise it changes much more than you think. Your boyfried will be a totally different person after boot camp. That's what the army does. Break you down as an individual to build you up as a team. Trust me, his mentality will change, and it has to if he will survive in Iraq.
Well first off, i almost did that so...don't rush into anything. If you truly want to be with him then just say you are engaged and stick with that until you are ready. If you really have to marry him, do it after boot camp, cause then you will have been without him for long enough to know what it really is that you want....Take some time. If he is still afraid of you leaving him, have one of his friends watch you or have his mom watch you. he needs to trust a little more....I mean there are lots of women around the bases that want to get with the men. After he finds out if he is shipping to Iraq then you can plan. If he is just going for schooling or being stationed somewhere else in the US then move with him. Finish school first then move to base. This is all I really have to offer. If you want to talk more then email me.
Are u crazy? You are only 16 and only been with this boy for 3 months, rethink everything u have ur entire life ahead of u and yes u can live without him u have only known him for 3 months how did u ever survive 16 years without him....Good Luck!
Sigh. You're 16, you've ony known him for three months---you cannot be thinking clearly or rationally about any of this, otherwise you wouldn't even post this question. I know it's romantic to invision yourself as the little housewife, but you've got school to finish, and he is going off to start a career in the military and possibly die for our country. Can you see how opposite this all is?
You feel you can't live without a boy at 16? My goodness, where are your friends and all your interests? Why aren't you out having a great time like any other 16 year old? Why are you all in such a rush to get into adult type relationships when you're not equipped?
Bottom line: You do not know this person well enough and are not developed enough yourself to be making any life altering decisions. People who are about to get married (GROWN PEOPLE) do not do so because they fear the other person will cheat if given other options. The entire situation is really immature. Wise up!
I'm 85% sure you are rushing into marriage for the wrong reasons. Let the situation run it's course. If it's meant to be you'll make it work.
Im in sort of the same position but im graduating college with my gf of over 5 years. As young as you are dont do it, its jst not worth it yet. Yea you may cheat or leave him but it doesnt matter if your married or just dating. When you get married it doesnt automatically make you not cheat. For some people its hard to leave on deployments and leave family behind. for him it sounds like he will be to worried about what you are doing then his job if he gets deployed. If it was me Id tell him you want to wait til at LEAST until you graduate high school
Your not going to listen to anyone on here. The only answers you will pay any attention to are the ones that justify your silly actions.
Everything about this is a BAD IDEA.
But because it's obvious you wont listen...
Please get your tubes tied before you have any children with this BOY.
Go screw up your own life! But DO NOT bring an innocent child into your maddening world, and bring them up with your same ignorance to life.
Ask him which one he would prefer, an 85% chance you'll cheat on him or move on, or an 85% chance that after you're married you'll cheat on him anyway, or an 85% chance that you'll be divorced before his active duty is over.
You do not need to rush into marriage. What is supposed to be will be and if you are meant to be together, things will work out so you can be when the time is right. Please do not get married when you are both so young because you are scared something may happen to him. Things happen to people all the time, both her and overseas. There is no need to rush into something that I doubt both of you are ready for. Write letters, talk often and see eachother as much as you can when you can, if it's supposed to work out, it will.
PS-If he is scared you will cheat on him, people do that married or not, I don't really see why a peice of paper would change that. He needs to trust you more.
For one, you're waayyyy to young to get married or even know if you want to get married. It's called LUST, not love. You need years before you can truly love someone enough to get married, though there are acceptions...but at your age, it's not appropriate.
Two, boot camp (basic) is only 13 weeks and he gets two weeks leave after that to go home. And then he as SOI or some other training before they will deploy anyone.
Third, Marines don't go to Iraq for 2 years at a time. (Some may but its RARE) They deploy for 7-8 months depending. I know b/c my brother and ex boyfriend were in the Marines and went to Iraq THREE times, each for 8 months at the WORST of the war.
I think you need to let him join the Marines and you need to support him with letters and cards when he's in basic. Lay off on the marriage thing, it will happen when/if the time is ever right for you two. Getting married doesn't mean anything changes, you still can't be with him for quite some time. It's not til after a lot of their training is done that anyone can get base housing if they're married.
At 16 years old, you shouldn't have to contemplate getting married yet--you are young and have yet to experience and enjoy life.
My husband is a Marine. We've been together for 8 years now and he joined 2 years into our relationship. It's tough--boot camp, deployments, training, etc...but keep in mind that he's this person you know and love now, but after boot camp he can be someone completely different--that whole experience changes people...sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
You should not let him pressure you into doing something you obviously don't really want to do by throwing statistics at you--that's a scare tactic and is not fair to you and disrespectful to your character. Let the relationship run its course. You have plenty of time and if it's meant to be, it'll work out. What you can do as a gf is support him and stick by him, but that doesn't mean you have to marry him at this moment.
I'm sorry to hear you're in this difficult position.
I am concerned, however, that your boyfriend is giving you statistics on how likely you will cheat on him. He's not being fair to you. He does not trust you, or, perhaps, he does not trust himself to be faithful to you. You cannot make someone trust you, you can only be the best person you can be and know you are faithful to him. If he doesn't believe you, that is a huge issue in any relationship.
I know that you love him, but I don't think marriage is the best idea for you. You are only 16 and have so much more in life to experience. If he is going into the military, you will have to be away from each other for long periods of time anyway... even if he is not deployed. His duties might take him out of state for weeks or months, or any other issue might come up where you can't be with him.
No one can say if anything will ';happen'; to him in Iraq, but I pray if he is deployed it does not. People do change after situations like that. Are you ready to deal with those types of issues too?
Stick to your guns and wait to get married. Good luck.
Take your time...If you love each other and it's meant to be things will work themselves out. I know what it feels like to have someone you love leave for a long time (my BF is in the army and just got back from Afghanistan). But I have seen this over and over again...people in the military get married very young, too young. At 16 you are not even close to the person you will be...you are still trying to figure out who you are and so is he. If he is worried that you will cheat on him just because he'll be gone for 14 weeks...what does he think will happen when he is deployed 15 or 18 months? He clearly has trust issues and he needs to take a good look at what he really wants. If you get married when you are 25 (and live to be 80) you will still be married for 55 years.
You said that '; you love him more then life itself and can't go 4 months without him and then him come back for 10 days and then gone for 2 years in Iraq.';
Getting married won't make this situtation go away. He will still be leaving you for bootcamp and possibly overseas.
My advice: Just support him...write him often at bootcamp...and take your time.
NEVER marry an man who wants to marry you because he feels he can't trust you.
NEVER marry a man who doesn't trust you.
NEVER marry a marine before basic. Marine basic training changes a person.
p.s. you can't get married with out parent consent if your under the age of 18- your still a minor.How do I deal with my boyfriend {who is going to be a marine} being gone at bootcamp for 15 weeks?
Get over it. You do not need to get married. If he is already worrying about you leaving him then that will just mess with his head while he is deployed. My husband is an Army officer and during deployment the biggest problem his troops had was worrying about what the wives/girlfriends were doing. This was far more prevelant with young soldiers and is not good for the unit as a whole.
Don't get married. Go to college.
Amanda, I have to start answering to your question telling you that you are away too Young to get married.
But, this is Your life!
Well once you are serious about this love, and it looks like it on your question. Go for it!! You are so sure about it, he is the love your life, but be prepared for everything, you know, he IS going to Iraq, and it's pretty dangerous you have to be brave and supportive, cos he will need you more than anything else!
I do not agree with this stupid war, but I support the troops, and those brave man such as your soon to be husband!!
Tell him he already has a proud fan!!
Go for it girl, but know that marriage is a big deal, and it is an important decision, think carefully, but go for it.
Peace.
If he doesn't trust you now, what makes him think he'll be able to trust you when he gets deployed? I used to live on a military base and husbands (and wives) leave for days, weeks, months, or years at a time.
Hasn't he ever heard of married people cheating??? Putting a ring on your finger won't keep you outta some other guy's bed!
If your life is so dependent on him, maybe you two should get some counseling. He sounds like he needs to control you and you sound just a little co-dependent for my taste.
I don't think you are ready for marriage if he has given you a percentage chance you will cheat. Marriage takes a lot of work, and military life is even worse. In a year your relationship will change a lot. Why not just date him, and see how things go? You are too young to leave the family and be married, but he will be stationed elsewhere when he isn't in Iraq and it is a very lonely military life. Why don't you join a military wife message board and get their thoughts on being married to the military. I promise it changes much more than you think. Your boyfried will be a totally different person after boot camp. That's what the army does. Break you down as an individual to build you up as a team. Trust me, his mentality will change, and it has to if he will survive in Iraq.
Well first off, i almost did that so...don't rush into anything. If you truly want to be with him then just say you are engaged and stick with that until you are ready. If you really have to marry him, do it after boot camp, cause then you will have been without him for long enough to know what it really is that you want....Take some time. If he is still afraid of you leaving him, have one of his friends watch you or have his mom watch you. he needs to trust a little more....I mean there are lots of women around the bases that want to get with the men. After he finds out if he is shipping to Iraq then you can plan. If he is just going for schooling or being stationed somewhere else in the US then move with him. Finish school first then move to base. This is all I really have to offer. If you want to talk more then email me.
Are u crazy? You are only 16 and only been with this boy for 3 months, rethink everything u have ur entire life ahead of u and yes u can live without him u have only known him for 3 months how did u ever survive 16 years without him....Good Luck!
Sigh. You're 16, you've ony known him for three months---you cannot be thinking clearly or rationally about any of this, otherwise you wouldn't even post this question. I know it's romantic to invision yourself as the little housewife, but you've got school to finish, and he is going off to start a career in the military and possibly die for our country. Can you see how opposite this all is?
You feel you can't live without a boy at 16? My goodness, where are your friends and all your interests? Why aren't you out having a great time like any other 16 year old? Why are you all in such a rush to get into adult type relationships when you're not equipped?
Bottom line: You do not know this person well enough and are not developed enough yourself to be making any life altering decisions. People who are about to get married (GROWN PEOPLE) do not do so because they fear the other person will cheat if given other options. The entire situation is really immature. Wise up!
I'm 85% sure you are rushing into marriage for the wrong reasons. Let the situation run it's course. If it's meant to be you'll make it work.
Im in sort of the same position but im graduating college with my gf of over 5 years. As young as you are dont do it, its jst not worth it yet. Yea you may cheat or leave him but it doesnt matter if your married or just dating. When you get married it doesnt automatically make you not cheat. For some people its hard to leave on deployments and leave family behind. for him it sounds like he will be to worried about what you are doing then his job if he gets deployed. If it was me Id tell him you want to wait til at LEAST until you graduate high school
Your not going to listen to anyone on here. The only answers you will pay any attention to are the ones that justify your silly actions.
Everything about this is a BAD IDEA.
But because it's obvious you wont listen...
Please get your tubes tied before you have any children with this BOY.
Go screw up your own life! But DO NOT bring an innocent child into your maddening world, and bring them up with your same ignorance to life.
Ask him which one he would prefer, an 85% chance you'll cheat on him or move on, or an 85% chance that after you're married you'll cheat on him anyway, or an 85% chance that you'll be divorced before his active duty is over.
You do not need to rush into marriage. What is supposed to be will be and if you are meant to be together, things will work out so you can be when the time is right. Please do not get married when you are both so young because you are scared something may happen to him. Things happen to people all the time, both her and overseas. There is no need to rush into something that I doubt both of you are ready for. Write letters, talk often and see eachother as much as you can when you can, if it's supposed to work out, it will.
PS-If he is scared you will cheat on him, people do that married or not, I don't really see why a peice of paper would change that. He needs to trust you more.
For one, you're waayyyy to young to get married or even know if you want to get married. It's called LUST, not love. You need years before you can truly love someone enough to get married, though there are acceptions...but at your age, it's not appropriate.
Two, boot camp (basic) is only 13 weeks and he gets two weeks leave after that to go home. And then he as SOI or some other training before they will deploy anyone.
Third, Marines don't go to Iraq for 2 years at a time. (Some may but its RARE) They deploy for 7-8 months depending. I know b/c my brother and ex boyfriend were in the Marines and went to Iraq THREE times, each for 8 months at the WORST of the war.
I think you need to let him join the Marines and you need to support him with letters and cards when he's in basic. Lay off on the marriage thing, it will happen when/if the time is ever right for you two. Getting married doesn't mean anything changes, you still can't be with him for quite some time. It's not til after a lot of their training is done that anyone can get base housing if they're married.
At 16 years old, you shouldn't have to contemplate getting married yet--you are young and have yet to experience and enjoy life.
My husband is a Marine. We've been together for 8 years now and he joined 2 years into our relationship. It's tough--boot camp, deployments, training, etc...but keep in mind that he's this person you know and love now, but after boot camp he can be someone completely different--that whole experience changes people...sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
You should not let him pressure you into doing something you obviously don't really want to do by throwing statistics at you--that's a scare tactic and is not fair to you and disrespectful to your character. Let the relationship run its course. You have plenty of time and if it's meant to be, it'll work out. What you can do as a gf is support him and stick by him, but that doesn't mean you have to marry him at this moment.
I'm sorry to hear you're in this difficult position.
I am concerned, however, that your boyfriend is giving you statistics on how likely you will cheat on him. He's not being fair to you. He does not trust you, or, perhaps, he does not trust himself to be faithful to you. You cannot make someone trust you, you can only be the best person you can be and know you are faithful to him. If he doesn't believe you, that is a huge issue in any relationship.
I know that you love him, but I don't think marriage is the best idea for you. You are only 16 and have so much more in life to experience. If he is going into the military, you will have to be away from each other for long periods of time anyway... even if he is not deployed. His duties might take him out of state for weeks or months, or any other issue might come up where you can't be with him.
No one can say if anything will ';happen'; to him in Iraq, but I pray if he is deployed it does not. People do change after situations like that. Are you ready to deal with those types of issues too?
Stick to your guns and wait to get married. Good luck.
Take your time...If you love each other and it's meant to be things will work themselves out. I know what it feels like to have someone you love leave for a long time (my BF is in the army and just got back from Afghanistan). But I have seen this over and over again...people in the military get married very young, too young. At 16 you are not even close to the person you will be...you are still trying to figure out who you are and so is he. If he is worried that you will cheat on him just because he'll be gone for 14 weeks...what does he think will happen when he is deployed 15 or 18 months? He clearly has trust issues and he needs to take a good look at what he really wants. If you get married when you are 25 (and live to be 80) you will still be married for 55 years.
You said that '; you love him more then life itself and can't go 4 months without him and then him come back for 10 days and then gone for 2 years in Iraq.';
Getting married won't make this situtation go away. He will still be leaving you for bootcamp and possibly overseas.
My advice: Just support him...write him often at bootcamp...and take your time.
How do you deal with a boyfriend that says he doesn't care if you trust him or not? I'm so confused and lost.?
My bf and I have been going out for 3 1/2 years and in the past he's given me reasons not to trust him. Even though he never physically cheated on me, I did find an inappropriate sexual conversation on his phone between him and an ex. This lead to me to question my trust in him. Since then, I've had my guard up so I wouldn't get hurt if this happened again. I've been trying to learn how to trust him again, but he's so impatient. He said he's gotten to the point where he just doesn't care if I learn to trust him or not. I don't know how we can move forward if he doesn't care. You can't have a relationship without trust, so i'm just confused.How do you deal with a boyfriend that says he doesn't care if you trust him or not? I'm so confused and lost.?
you have pushed him too hard
he did nothing yet you have given grief
he has reached the end of your emotional turmile
look its your problem not his , he has given you lee way bit three yeas of it is too much
why should he suffer for your problem?
so he turns off
you have no one else to blame but your self
if you had been reasonable he would not have reached this point
you have pushed him too hard
he did nothing yet you have given grief
he has reached the end of your emotional turmile
look its your problem not his , he has given you lee way bit three yeas of it is too much
why should he suffer for your problem?
so he turns off
you have no one else to blame but your self
if you had been reasonable he would not have reached this point
I think my boyfriend is cheating or talking to other girls besides me, but i dont know and im in love with him
and i dont know how to confront him about it and when i ask him a little bit about it he gets mad and everything and i need to know how i can deal with this situation. He gets emails on myspace from all these girls everywhere and i need help because my heart hurts.I think my boyfriend is cheating or talking to other girls besides me, but i dont know and im in love with him
well i used to have the same prob.. but now me and my bf deleted our myspce. but there would be girls he used to talk to or watever msgin him all the time most of the time i wrote them back telling them not to.. and he didnt care. but on myspace anyone can mail u.. even if u dont know them.. they will email u. for the hell of it. buttt im not saying thats whats happining maby he is, i mean.. what do they say in the msg? and u cant have a relationship if u dont talk about things... tell him how u feel and tell him u dont like it.I think my boyfriend is cheating or talking to other girls besides me, but i dont know and im in love with him
I've been cheated on a few times. I've learned if they are cheating then they will start a fight when you ask about it because that way the subject is dropped. Your boyfriend may not be cheating and just offended at the accusation. The only way to know is to ask him. Tell him your concerned ask him to not get mad. You have a right to know.
Then maybe you need to call this off if there are trust issues.
well i used to have the same prob.. but now me and my bf deleted our myspce. but there would be girls he used to talk to or watever msgin him all the time most of the time i wrote them back telling them not to.. and he didnt care. but on myspace anyone can mail u.. even if u dont know them.. they will email u. for the hell of it. buttt im not saying thats whats happining maby he is, i mean.. what do they say in the msg? and u cant have a relationship if u dont talk about things... tell him how u feel and tell him u dont like it.I think my boyfriend is cheating or talking to other girls besides me, but i dont know and im in love with him
I've been cheated on a few times. I've learned if they are cheating then they will start a fight when you ask about it because that way the subject is dropped. Your boyfriend may not be cheating and just offended at the accusation. The only way to know is to ask him. Tell him your concerned ask him to not get mad. You have a right to know.
Then maybe you need to call this off if there are trust issues.
How to deal with ex boyfriend dating another girl..?
My ex and I were dating off and on for over 3 years. About 2 years ago I had cheated on him, but he forgave me. I was a bit of a liar and I hurt him emotionally. For the past few months I've been trying to show him that I have changed and want to give him more respect, but it hasn't work very well.. or at least to the extent that I thought it would. He told me the other day that he wanted to date someone else to see how I would react and whatnot. I think that is really messed up and I don't really understand why a guy would even do such a thing. He also said that he wanted to give me another chance, just not right now. He told me that he would miss me and would most likely want me back. Well as of today, he is dating another girl and it's killing me. He came to my house today to pick up his stuff. We talked about things and he was like ';just move on... if we are meant to be, then we will be together again.'; he also was like ';i can't be with you right now. you can wait/ show me that you are a better person, but that's up to you.'; I don't want to move on and I feel like I'm the right person for him. How do you get a man to feel the same way about you? I am trying to live my life and be happy, but I also feel like it would be right if he was there by my side. I really need some honest advice about this. It is hurting me more than anything else has ever hurt me before. I want to show him that I have changed and that I can be a great person, but I'm definitely not trying to be the girl on the side. I want him back, so can someone please help me out.. even just a little?
Thanks so much. I'd really appreciate your advice. How to deal with ex boyfriend dating another girl..?
it definitely sucks because I just went through the exact same thing, except the girl he's dating was my friend and teammate... obviously no longer, but its tough i know. you just have to completely cut yourself off from him and start over. it'll get easier and there will be times when you break down and think that you want him back, but in time you'll see that you don't really want him and that you are truly better off without him. I think the one thing that really helped me most was surrounding myself with friends and talking about it until you get tired of hearing about it. Also, try and picture your life without him, how it will pan out. I know it sucks but he's not going to magically change him mind, unfortunately, but also fortunately because you'll be a stronger person and have better relationships because of it.How to deal with ex boyfriend dating another girl..?
your gonna have to forget about him. waiting for him will only show him that he has a hold on you. nows your chance to start fresh %26amp; everything you feel you did wrong in that relationshipp..you can fix in a new one.
off and on for 3 years i think that it's a little late to change and it worked what he did.. now that you know you cant ';have'; him you really want him more
Thanks so much. I'd really appreciate your advice. How to deal with ex boyfriend dating another girl..?
it definitely sucks because I just went through the exact same thing, except the girl he's dating was my friend and teammate... obviously no longer, but its tough i know. you just have to completely cut yourself off from him and start over. it'll get easier and there will be times when you break down and think that you want him back, but in time you'll see that you don't really want him and that you are truly better off without him. I think the one thing that really helped me most was surrounding myself with friends and talking about it until you get tired of hearing about it. Also, try and picture your life without him, how it will pan out. I know it sucks but he's not going to magically change him mind, unfortunately, but also fortunately because you'll be a stronger person and have better relationships because of it.How to deal with ex boyfriend dating another girl..?
your gonna have to forget about him. waiting for him will only show him that he has a hold on you. nows your chance to start fresh %26amp; everything you feel you did wrong in that relationshipp..you can fix in a new one.
off and on for 3 years i think that it's a little late to change and it worked what he did.. now that you know you cant ';have'; him you really want him more
How to deal with a distancing boyfriend?
Lately my boyfriend has been p*ssed off with his job, friend being fired, bad shifts, and generally doesn't think it's too great where he is. We're in different countries atm, Vancouver - UK for just under a year, for 3 months so far (he's flying to see me for a week in 2 months).
p.s. and before any says anything he's not cheating... too long to explain how i know.
When he's having problems and a bad time, he tends to shy away and the messages i get aren't quite so elaborate and chatty on the phone (still rings me tho). I stil get love you's but not the elaborate long love emails i usually do. You get the drift. Men eh! I know i'll pass, but until than what should i do thats for the best?
Give him a bit of space to sort things out himself, and just follow his lead, go out with friends moer until he's sorted etc? Just keep texting and phoning (we text a lot.. saving for a laptop each to webcam cos we're 19/20) as usual?How to deal with a distancing boyfriend?
When you are that stressed, alot of things can happen to you that are not normal. This will only be a sample to see if you ever make it through marriage. People don't normally give up when things go bad in their life......you have to just try alittle harder. He probably misses you and is homesisck and still put up with the things at work. Imagine how you would feel if that happened to you? Just hang on and try and understand what all he is trying to tell you. If he didn't care, he would quit writing all together. Give it more time.How to deal with a distancing boyfriend?
I think you should give him a little space to work some things out. Hanging out with your friends might help take your mind off of the situation.
p.s. and before any says anything he's not cheating... too long to explain how i know.
When he's having problems and a bad time, he tends to shy away and the messages i get aren't quite so elaborate and chatty on the phone (still rings me tho). I stil get love you's but not the elaborate long love emails i usually do. You get the drift. Men eh! I know i'll pass, but until than what should i do thats for the best?
Give him a bit of space to sort things out himself, and just follow his lead, go out with friends moer until he's sorted etc? Just keep texting and phoning (we text a lot.. saving for a laptop each to webcam cos we're 19/20) as usual?How to deal with a distancing boyfriend?
When you are that stressed, alot of things can happen to you that are not normal. This will only be a sample to see if you ever make it through marriage. People don't normally give up when things go bad in their life......you have to just try alittle harder. He probably misses you and is homesisck and still put up with the things at work. Imagine how you would feel if that happened to you? Just hang on and try and understand what all he is trying to tell you. If he didn't care, he would quit writing all together. Give it more time.How to deal with a distancing boyfriend?
I think you should give him a little space to work some things out. Hanging out with your friends might help take your mind off of the situation.
How to deal with my ex-boyfriend?
I have been dating with my ex-boyfriend 3 years ago.he's really taking care of me.but,somehow he's been cheating me behind my back.he flirted with my bestfriend and even with my junior at my college.i'd been broke up with him 6 months ago.he already have a new girlfriend,but he's still wanna keep in touch with me.recently,he always talk about our memories.i hate it so much.i wanna to him to get rid from my life,but i have no strength to say it to him...please somebody,give some opinion bout dis...i do reli appreciate itHow to deal with my ex-boyfriend?
He is playing with your head. Men love have 2 girls..one on each arm. He is trying to convince you that you should be with him again by being like ';remember how fun this was..and when we did this';. Don't listen to that BS..chances are..he really isn't thinking about it as much as it sounds..he just knows what will get to you. Just stop talking to him period. Don't give him a explanation..don't even talk to him. Just let him ween off of you, cause if you stop talking completely, he will. If you talk again..even if it's for 5 min, you just put yourself back to square one and he will call and call and call.How to deal with my ex-boyfriend?
ignore him.. play cool..
idk sounds tough, im only in 7th grade, and ... ya all i can say is dont b rude or anything, dont make it any aquard for him or u than it already has to b, let it go let him call u, dont call him sooner or lata hell get the point
Well the truth of the matter is you're going to have to dig deep and find that strength to tell him how you feel and remove him from your life or else all of this will just continue.phone sexy hair
He is playing with your head. Men love have 2 girls..one on each arm. He is trying to convince you that you should be with him again by being like ';remember how fun this was..and when we did this';. Don't listen to that BS..chances are..he really isn't thinking about it as much as it sounds..he just knows what will get to you. Just stop talking to him period. Don't give him a explanation..don't even talk to him. Just let him ween off of you, cause if you stop talking completely, he will. If you talk again..even if it's for 5 min, you just put yourself back to square one and he will call and call and call.How to deal with my ex-boyfriend?
ignore him.. play cool..
idk sounds tough, im only in 7th grade, and ... ya all i can say is dont b rude or anything, dont make it any aquard for him or u than it already has to b, let it go let him call u, dont call him sooner or lata hell get the point
Well the truth of the matter is you're going to have to dig deep and find that strength to tell him how you feel and remove him from your life or else all of this will just continue.
How do i deal with my controlling boyfriend?? he is makin me miserable ??? ?
Ok so the thing is that I have been with my Boyfriend for a year now. im 19 He has always been paranoid but When we were together for 5 months i went to Ibiza and i cheated on him.I know that that was bang out of order and i am Truly sorry for what i have done. I would never do it again. I really have learned my lesson. But my boyfriend is so controlling and paranoid even worse than before. He has checked my phone account. Even logged into my personal account to check up on me. He always asks me if i was speaking to anyone and he wants to know did anyone text me. When im not with him he thinks i am with someone else ?? I was pregnant with his baby and he still thought i was cheating. Unfortunately i miscarried my baby and I now have no longer have anything keeping us together. I am still with him because i love him and i would never hurt him again. but right now i am miserable..
can you please help me and advise me on what i should do. :(How do i deal with my controlling boyfriend?? he is makin me miserable ??? ?
Hi Ponywigg, I'm so sorry bout your miscarriage and only God knows how sad you were.
It's really a difficult dilemma in this case and you have my sympathy towards
you, really.
Since I find that you still love him very much and really would like to bring back this relationship, I'll say in the mean time you should try not to bring any
untoward situation to let him have a chance to be paranoid.
I suggest you calm down for some time and think through thoroughly that what do you want out of this relationship, cause this case is really in a mess now and I'm sure that you don't wanna add any more fuel in to the fire, right ?
So take your time to prepare your steps carefully.
1) For rebuilding this relationship.
2) For planning a safety escape.
3) For the long term what it'll takes.
4) Do you wish to reconcile and prepare to forgive ?( I mean the miscarriage )
5) And finally, can you really carry such a heavy burden ?
So, no matter what's your choice for now, it seems to me that you should not provoke any of your b/f feelings, lest he'll have a reason to hurl his anger upon you and you really don't want that either, REMEMBER ?
that you really wants back this relationship and start all anew.
As a matter of fact, don't you ever give him a reason to get angry with you
anymore and start to learn how to be mature and always think carefully so
that you'll make decisions wisely, cause getting angry will not solve your problem and I promise you that if you could handle this matter accordingly to
this plans, then I'm sure everything will work out very fine and I can also feel
that this relationship with your b/f will have a very deep understanding with each other and he'll always remember that you really knows your fault and
he'll try to rethink all the hurt that he'd place upon you.
And if this day arrives, put your finger at his lips and say to him.......
sshh= ask him to keep quiet,
and slowly shake your head as to let him know not to mention the past anymore to have a deep understanding that this episode is long gone.
No more hard feelings and grudges and I believe you'll have a very happy ending.How do i deal with my controlling boyfriend?? he is makin me miserable ??? ?
The best thing for you right now would be to have some space and time to think by yourself in the things you want. Relationships like this never tend to work out. Trust, communication, and deep understanding in what the two of you need are big key points in a relationship. A year is pretty long to realize ';hey you know what im miserable'; its time to move on
You broke his trust and it's taking a long time for it to be rebuilt. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to make him trust you again. That's going to happen in his own time. Consider yourself lucky he's still with you. Other guys maybe have kicked you to the curb.
';He is such a loving boyfriend when we are together and he's not being an asshole and I'm not cheating and. . . ';
You don't wanna live the rest of your life like this? Dump his *** and don't **** around with the next guy.
Look Girl If He's Controlling Now What The Hell
You Think He Might Do Later In The Relationship?
What If He Hurts You Hits You Or Whatever!
Its Not Safe He's Already Acting Paranoid :|
I Think You Should Leave Him And If It's Not
Easy, Be Careful
you sound really stupid.im so glad i had a mis carraige but i love him and right now im misurable.stay with him or leave him its your choice and for the record if you cheated on me you would feel miserable as well
he needs to back off, and if he dosnt its really not worth it because without trust its not really going to work
xx
At 19 your life is still ahead of you and life is too short to live in misery!
Make a clean break now, or you will truly regret it in the future. Sure you will miss him ';at first'; but I'm sure you won't miss all the drama.
This guy don't sound paranoid, he sounds dangerous. Get out now before the situation escalates. Good luck! You'll find true happiness in time and did you ever stop to think deep down what was the reason you turned to another's arms? All wasn't right in paradise!
Okay let him know how you feel about the situation.maybe sit him down and truly let him know he did that but won't do it again. That way he won't feel he has to do all these things to keep ur story true to him. Right now he doesn't trust you and he has reason not 2. You have 2 let him know that u understand his point but what is a relationship without a little comprimise? Tell him u love him with all his heart but if he doesn't ease up this relationship will have 2 come 2 an end
Everybody makes mistakes, honey, but the important thing is that you don't repeat them. I'm sure you wouldn't do such a thing again. Sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you'd never cheat on him again, because it's him you're in love with. Nobody can replace him. It's natural for him to feel insecure after what happened, but convince him that it's time he relaxed a little and tried to trust you again. Tell him you're not gonna let him down.
Give it some time. If it still doesn't work, and he still is paranoid and controlling, you'd be better off without him.
can you please help me and advise me on what i should do. :(How do i deal with my controlling boyfriend?? he is makin me miserable ??? ?
Hi Ponywigg, I'm so sorry bout your miscarriage and only God knows how sad you were.
It's really a difficult dilemma in this case and you have my sympathy towards
you, really.
Since I find that you still love him very much and really would like to bring back this relationship, I'll say in the mean time you should try not to bring any
untoward situation to let him have a chance to be paranoid.
I suggest you calm down for some time and think through thoroughly that what do you want out of this relationship, cause this case is really in a mess now and I'm sure that you don't wanna add any more fuel in to the fire, right ?
So take your time to prepare your steps carefully.
1) For rebuilding this relationship.
2) For planning a safety escape.
3) For the long term what it'll takes.
4) Do you wish to reconcile and prepare to forgive ?( I mean the miscarriage )
5) And finally, can you really carry such a heavy burden ?
So, no matter what's your choice for now, it seems to me that you should not provoke any of your b/f feelings, lest he'll have a reason to hurl his anger upon you and you really don't want that either, REMEMBER ?
that you really wants back this relationship and start all anew.
As a matter of fact, don't you ever give him a reason to get angry with you
anymore and start to learn how to be mature and always think carefully so
that you'll make decisions wisely, cause getting angry will not solve your problem and I promise you that if you could handle this matter accordingly to
this plans, then I'm sure everything will work out very fine and I can also feel
that this relationship with your b/f will have a very deep understanding with each other and he'll always remember that you really knows your fault and
he'll try to rethink all the hurt that he'd place upon you.
And if this day arrives, put your finger at his lips and say to him.......
sshh= ask him to keep quiet,
and slowly shake your head as to let him know not to mention the past anymore to have a deep understanding that this episode is long gone.
No more hard feelings and grudges and I believe you'll have a very happy ending.How do i deal with my controlling boyfriend?? he is makin me miserable ??? ?
The best thing for you right now would be to have some space and time to think by yourself in the things you want. Relationships like this never tend to work out. Trust, communication, and deep understanding in what the two of you need are big key points in a relationship. A year is pretty long to realize ';hey you know what im miserable'; its time to move on
You broke his trust and it's taking a long time for it to be rebuilt. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to make him trust you again. That's going to happen in his own time. Consider yourself lucky he's still with you. Other guys maybe have kicked you to the curb.
';He is such a loving boyfriend when we are together and he's not being an asshole and I'm not cheating and. . . ';
You don't wanna live the rest of your life like this? Dump his *** and don't **** around with the next guy.
Look Girl If He's Controlling Now What The Hell
You Think He Might Do Later In The Relationship?
What If He Hurts You Hits You Or Whatever!
Its Not Safe He's Already Acting Paranoid :|
I Think You Should Leave Him And If It's Not
Easy, Be Careful
you sound really stupid.im so glad i had a mis carraige but i love him and right now im misurable.stay with him or leave him its your choice and for the record if you cheated on me you would feel miserable as well
he needs to back off, and if he dosnt its really not worth it because without trust its not really going to work
xx
At 19 your life is still ahead of you and life is too short to live in misery!
Make a clean break now, or you will truly regret it in the future. Sure you will miss him ';at first'; but I'm sure you won't miss all the drama.
This guy don't sound paranoid, he sounds dangerous. Get out now before the situation escalates. Good luck! You'll find true happiness in time and did you ever stop to think deep down what was the reason you turned to another's arms? All wasn't right in paradise!
Okay let him know how you feel about the situation.maybe sit him down and truly let him know he did that but won't do it again. That way he won't feel he has to do all these things to keep ur story true to him. Right now he doesn't trust you and he has reason not 2. You have 2 let him know that u understand his point but what is a relationship without a little comprimise? Tell him u love him with all his heart but if he doesn't ease up this relationship will have 2 come 2 an end
Everybody makes mistakes, honey, but the important thing is that you don't repeat them. I'm sure you wouldn't do such a thing again. Sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you'd never cheat on him again, because it's him you're in love with. Nobody can replace him. It's natural for him to feel insecure after what happened, but convince him that it's time he relaxed a little and tried to trust you again. Tell him you're not gonna let him down.
Give it some time. If it still doesn't work, and he still is paranoid and controlling, you'd be better off without him.
Do you think he's cheating on me?
okay, here's the deal... My boyfriend and i have been dating for four months, and ever since then i have had this...
PERSON 1(supposed to be my best friend.): he went the whole 9 yards with another girl!
(later i figure out she's been talking a BUNCH of sh*it on me.reason? idfk.)
ANOTHER PERSON: he says he broke up with you...
i confronted him about it, and he told me that person 1 was trying to get with him. and he told me ';another person'; liked him since they met.
Now i just don't know what to do, my mother says ';you never know, you only see him like every saturday, he could be cheating.';
and i brought up the point to her, ';why would my boyfriend text my other best friend who wouldnt try getting with him telling her, ';how much he loves me, and cherishes me, and wants to be with me for a long time.';
(oh yeah, i let him text my bestfriend because he's very sick and has been in the hospital, and keeps me up to date with whats going on. and i let her talk to him a couple times. because i can trust this girl with my life).
Then my mother brought up the point, ';that you cant trust any guy, because most are out to hurt you';.
In my heart i believe he is not, i just need that backup opinion, i've also asked my 2 newer best friends, they do not think he is, they practically slap me for thinking so...
I do have trust issues, because i've been cheated on in every relationship i've ever had, my heart is on a thread, and it hurts :'(
thank you for you're time, i'd really appreciate it if you'd give me a good answer that will help me, none that say anything stupid and not worth my time.Do you think he's cheating on me?
just live your life .. when you're older .. or get older liek mariage age .. unless you are idk :P well you'll find the right person .. and maybe this is him ! you just have to go along with what the worlds bringing to you honey .. i know it sounds hard but just role with the punches .. and do what your heart tels you to .. even if it doesnt know what to do .. deep down you'll know what's right and you'll find out sooner or late
- I hope this helps %26lt;3 -Do you think he's cheating on me?
I think you should just calmly ask him if he's ever been w/ any other girls since you have been dating. But I don't think it's enough to full on confront him or anything. I think your heart's instinct is right, I hope he's not cheating on you. I've been there and it sucks.
I have one thing to say.... tell your mother that not all guys are out to hurt you... She's stupid for even planting that idea in your head. I wonder which hurts more... The bestfriend who tries to hook up with your boyfriend or the boyfriend who might or might not be trying to hook up with other girls.
look i dont of that but i do think he if u see him just talk to and make him look in ur eyes.
I just want to say to you that the only guy that will ever be good for you is one who makes you feel beautiful inside and out, who has a beautiful heart, who treats you with the utmost respect, who cherishes you, who thinks the world of you,...and so on. Your mom is right. More times than not, you will get hurt. But you can meet that one special guy that you love and who loves you back. And believe me, it will be worth it.
please answer mine
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
you can only hav one best Friend- that is why They are called best Friends the rest are just good Friends and I donut think guys are out to he rt women I think sum of them do it because their stooped clumsy or out of habit Im not going to tell you yes or no but I will tell you it's only a cup ell of months you never know and ceep your Witt's about you
Yes, I have to agree that every guy cheats... whether we want it or not, they do but some of them can change for the best, like others can be complete dogs.
Honestly think about it yourself and stop accepting opinions from other people. Just stop and think alone... If you only see him on Saturdays then yeah that could be a problem. But at the same time, what is the reason you only see him once a week?
Good Luck!
PERSON 1(supposed to be my best friend.): he went the whole 9 yards with another girl!
(later i figure out she's been talking a BUNCH of sh*it on me.reason? idfk.)
ANOTHER PERSON: he says he broke up with you...
i confronted him about it, and he told me that person 1 was trying to get with him. and he told me ';another person'; liked him since they met.
Now i just don't know what to do, my mother says ';you never know, you only see him like every saturday, he could be cheating.';
and i brought up the point to her, ';why would my boyfriend text my other best friend who wouldnt try getting with him telling her, ';how much he loves me, and cherishes me, and wants to be with me for a long time.';
(oh yeah, i let him text my bestfriend because he's very sick and has been in the hospital, and keeps me up to date with whats going on. and i let her talk to him a couple times. because i can trust this girl with my life).
Then my mother brought up the point, ';that you cant trust any guy, because most are out to hurt you';.
In my heart i believe he is not, i just need that backup opinion, i've also asked my 2 newer best friends, they do not think he is, they practically slap me for thinking so...
I do have trust issues, because i've been cheated on in every relationship i've ever had, my heart is on a thread, and it hurts :'(
thank you for you're time, i'd really appreciate it if you'd give me a good answer that will help me, none that say anything stupid and not worth my time.Do you think he's cheating on me?
just live your life .. when you're older .. or get older liek mariage age .. unless you are idk :P well you'll find the right person .. and maybe this is him ! you just have to go along with what the worlds bringing to you honey .. i know it sounds hard but just role with the punches .. and do what your heart tels you to .. even if it doesnt know what to do .. deep down you'll know what's right and you'll find out sooner or late
- I hope this helps %26lt;3 -Do you think he's cheating on me?
I think you should just calmly ask him if he's ever been w/ any other girls since you have been dating. But I don't think it's enough to full on confront him or anything. I think your heart's instinct is right, I hope he's not cheating on you. I've been there and it sucks.
I have one thing to say.... tell your mother that not all guys are out to hurt you... She's stupid for even planting that idea in your head. I wonder which hurts more... The bestfriend who tries to hook up with your boyfriend or the boyfriend who might or might not be trying to hook up with other girls.
look i dont of that but i do think he if u see him just talk to and make him look in ur eyes.
I just want to say to you that the only guy that will ever be good for you is one who makes you feel beautiful inside and out, who has a beautiful heart, who treats you with the utmost respect, who cherishes you, who thinks the world of you,...and so on. Your mom is right. More times than not, you will get hurt. But you can meet that one special guy that you love and who loves you back. And believe me, it will be worth it.
please answer mine
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
you can only hav one best Friend- that is why They are called best Friends the rest are just good Friends and I donut think guys are out to he rt women I think sum of them do it because their stooped clumsy or out of habit Im not going to tell you yes or no but I will tell you it's only a cup ell of months you never know and ceep your Witt's about you
Yes, I have to agree that every guy cheats... whether we want it or not, they do but some of them can change for the best, like others can be complete dogs.
Honestly think about it yourself and stop accepting opinions from other people. Just stop and think alone... If you only see him on Saturdays then yeah that could be a problem. But at the same time, what is the reason you only see him once a week?
Good Luck!
How to deal with moms inappropriate boyfriend?
hi guys. this is a serious question and i need serious answers. rather touchy subject that i haven't discussed with ANYBODY, and until i take some type of action, i don't think i'm ready to. i'm a little desperate. i know this will end up being lengthy, so i really really appreciate it if you take the time to read it. if you don't, you don't need to make me aware that you don't have the time. extra kudos if you take the time to answer. it would be a really huge help to me.
i'm 17. my mothers boyfriend is...crazy, and i he's totally out of line in the way he talks to and treats me. calling me sexy...complimenting my body. walking into the bathroom when i'm in the shower. barging into my bedroom. coming up from behind and wrapping his arms around my waist. touching me in areas that would be covered by a bathing suit...often. telling me how suckable my toes are?? offering me alcohol. just the other day we went out on his boat, and he was so insistent that i bring a bikini so i could dance on the top of his boat and ';give all of the men something nice to look at.';
i'm no angel, but i totally feel the way he treats me is both inappropriate and disrespectful to not only me, but my mother as well. he's always over our house, and he has trouble putting the bottle down. my ma thinks everything he does while drunk is cute and excusable. grinding chanel into the couch, cute. trying to kiss chanel, cute. asking chanel to dance for him, cute. however, chanel doesn't find this too cute at all. (i'm chanel, btw) when he left the next day i told my mother that i didn't feel comfortable at home when he was drinking, and i got in trouble. ';he was just playing'; she says. i'm ';being too serious.'; he is always over, and my mother keeps the liquor cabinet full. oftentimes i stay with my boyfriend or over a friends house, but i don't think it's fair that i'm feeling our house is not my home. in my opinion, he needs to chill out with the drinking...and chill out in his own home. he can take her with him for all i care, to be quite frank.
this is not the first time i've had problems with my mothers boyfriend. a few years ago i was raped by her boyfriend. my mother and i had gotten into a fight and he was ';comforting me.'; my mother and i have a lot of problems, and it was a pretty serious fight, physically and verbally. still, i told her immediately after it happened (she was in the kitchen cooking dinner). long story short: he didn't leave that night, and it took him cheating on her with somebody other than her daughter for her to leave him...so if you haven't noticed, but mother has this weakness for hot men, and when i tell her how i feel about these things, my words go in one ear and out the other. i'm totally open with her, and she's completely aware. whoever said ignorance is bliss isn't lying. my ma is the queen of playing stupid. anything with the potential to cause conflict between them is anything she will not touch.
so...am i just screwed? i'm tired of the way he talks to me...and the way he touches me. he's been touching me for a few weeks now...telling my mother isn't going to solve anything. we've been down this road before. pathetic as i feel for admitting this i seem to have trouble saying the word ';no'; when he comes near. one of my biggest fears is breaking up their relationship, but it's stressing me out, and i need to worry about my own feelings! my ma is a big girl, and i guess i am too, but i should come first here dmmit. my mother + no man is not a good combination...or lack of, should i say. i'm not sure whether i'd be more happy putting up with him, or with my mother having no man in the house. both sound like hell to me.
i feel like such a wimp. i'm 17 and i feel ridiculous that i let this happen to me, like i'm old enough to prevent it from happening. i'm not talking about the flirting,i can deal with that...the touching though. i need it to end. what can i do? who should i talk to? what's the right way to go about this type of thing? sorry this was so long, just wanted you to understand where i'm coming from. my mother does not care, anon sperm donor not around, and i pretty much don't know who to go to and how to handle this. really, really, really desperate. help me!? thanks.How to deal with moms inappropriate boyfriend?
This is definitely domestic abuse and you need to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Ask THEM if you need to call the police, because honestly, unless an incident JUST occurred, the police may not be able to do anything immediately, only serving to aggravate your mom and her boyfriend (the law if a fickle thing).
You can visit their website here: http://www.ndvh.org/ but the first thing that pops up is a warning about being ';spied on'; by anyone... if your family is tracking your web site usage or if they're walking around, this web site would not be a good place to visit... wait until you can get somewhere private: a friends, the library, at work, etc... here is a picture:
http://img200.imageshack.us/img200/3161/鈥?/a>
Read everyone's responses carefully, pull yourself together, and WITHOUT waiting for another incident, call the hotline and report this immediately.
Stay strong; you sound incredibly smart, very aware of what's happening.How to deal with moms inappropriate boyfriend?
COPS+phone=NOW PLEZ u dont need that and he has probs. u should also mention ur mom is lettin it happen.
Ok, first off as someone who was sexually abused from ages 9-12 then again date raped for months by a so called ';boyfriend'; I met online (back in 1992 he was in his 20's %26amp; I was 17) I totally know where you are coming from.
First off have you spoken to your mom about this? I get that she isn't that understanding (my mom was very verbally abusive to me so I know it is not to trust your mom) but have you made it clear how you feel?
There is ALWAYS someone to talk to. You just need to look around.
Is there an -
aunt
cousin
great aunt
grandmother
teacher
pastor
nurse
doctor
a friend's parent or family member of theirs
boyfriend's parent or family member of theirs
This touching thing is totally wrong! You are not a freak.
Now as someone with your past of being raped like me also at times we can take something as someone being nice as uncomfortable but still NO ONES TOUCHES YOU WHEN YOU DON'T WANT THEM TO!
(I still freak out when a male family member touches me or gets too close)
Talk to a trusting adult. Look at the list I a made for you there is someone you can talk to.
You are not alone in this %26amp; don't have to be.
But honestly if I were you I'd get out of that house right away. You don't feel safe and you need a home where you can feel safe.
Try these links too -
http://teenlineonline.org/teens/
http://www.1800runaway.org/ - they may know of a safe place to go
I feel so horrible for you but your mother is being COMPLETELY irresponsible, especially since u have already been raped by one of her boy friends. you need to tell her straight up '; I will not stay here as long as he stays here and you are going to choose now'; If she breaks up with him than ur fine, if not go to a friends house and tell them this (a friend you really trust and with reasonable and responsible parents).If your mother still doesn't come around after a week or two contact a relative and if u tell them this they'll probably 4 shure help you. You might not wanna leave ur mom but shes putting you in danger and she has b4 and didn't learn her lesson. if you really want to go to extremes press charges if he even touched you, and i Pretty sure if you tell sum1 2 stop making inappropriate comments repeatedly and they don't its sexual harassment.
if you wanna take this mildly than u cld just tell the boyfriend of in like a loud and public manor that you do not want to touch him and if he doesn't leave you alone you'll call the cops.
Well, you've told your mother and I'm sure you've told the creep to back off. You need to call the cops, tonight. Pack yourself a bag and plan on going to stay with a friend or a relative until your mother kicks him to the curb, but you are a minor and that man is a sick freak. Your mother is just as guilty as he is. Both of them need to beaten with a wooden plank. I also think that you need to speak to a guidance counselor at your school (I know it may be summer, but at least when school gets going again) and see about getting yourself some counseling to work through some of the issues. You may feel okay, but there could be a lot of deep seated issues that might not surface till years down the road. It'll be better to deal with them right now. You need to take action before you turn 18 so he gets the maximum punishment possible.
Call the POLICE!!! Tall to them, it sounds like her boyfriend is Sexually Harassing you and is an alcoholic. Just call them and say ';Hi my name is Chanel, and my Mom's boyfriend is constantly griding me into the couch, touching me, and trying to kiss me and stuff. I was wondering what to do about this. He also drinks a lot when he does this stuff and I have already been raped by one of her boyfriends and I don't want it to happen again. Could you please help me?'; That should solve the problem. You could have some officers come down to your house, sit down with you and your mom (and maybe boyfriend) and talk about how his behavior is COMPLETELY out of line. Good luck I am so sorry to hear about all of this.
Don't risk yourself for your mom, she isn't doing anything for you. She isn't even protecting you. I know you love her but if she loves you, then she has to do something.
im 17 too, and this is what i would do, i would see if icould frind a friend to stay wit or ur bf for a few weeks until school or something starts, and if ur moms bf still hurts u, go to social services, or the police, dont be afraid to ask for help bc uarent alone.
First of all, your mothers boyfriend is a jerk. Its pretty lame that he's hitting on you! You should threaten too call the police if he trys to touch you. And howcome your mom can't do anything about it? And I agree, Nothing he does is cute, its disgusting. You should, Put purple dye in his shampoo, :P and you should talk to your mom about it. Why don't you live with your dad or something. Oh, and everytime that guy trys to touch you, beat the hell out of him, maybe he's with your mom too get to you, you know what I mean? What an AssHole. Hope I helped?. :)
First of all things happen to people they probably shouldn't happen to and it's totally not your fault. But about your mom not caring about the things with her boyfriends..well you can't change her. Unfortunately, unless she listens to you and puts him out or at least goes there instead then nothing will happen. You just have to have a heart to heart with her and really talk to her. video tape it. I wouldn't advise going to the cops but if it gets bad you probably should.
well if your not ready to tell your mom or anyone else yet, you could go to www.rainn.org it`s the internatinal rape, child abuse, and insect site. you can at information and tons of other stuff about what your talking about now.
No, you don't have to put up with this. For anyone. Not even your mom. She may be your mom, but she sure as hell isn't acting like one. You need to call the police. You can get out of there so you don't have to deal with your mom, or this stupid guy.
Or your other option is to get emancipated. Which will drive YOU out of the house, but is it better than dealing with them?
Basically, you can't sit around and deal with it. But you can't tell your mom. So the best thing you can do is tell another trusted adult, the same things you told us, or call the police. Either way will probably break apart your family, but your better off without her and him.
Please don't call yourself a wimp. Your 17. Practically old enough to live by yourself now. You could always find a friend to stay with until you can get your own house, or even a relative that you can stay with for a while. Anything but staying there. It's not right.
Good luck. And I'm trusting you to do something. You are 17, after all. Not a little girl. Time to start being your own back up plan.
Well first of all don't blame yourself, you're the victim here. It's hard to protect yourself from adults when you are a minor and don't have your legal and financial independence.
Both your mom and the boyfriend are breaking the law. Your mom is committing child abuse. It is her job to protect you and she is not doing it. The boyfriend is molesting a minor.
You can't and shouldn't deal with this by yourself. You need help from other adults.
You could report your mom to child protective services. You could tell your school counselor. You could move out permanently and not go back there even to visit. The third option would be esp. good if you have a trusted adult you can live with on permanent basis, who you can tell this story to. So they won't pressure to move back or talk to your mother.
Don't do nothing though, it sounds like this man could very well be revving himself up to try to rape you. Get the hell out of there!
Good luck and sorry you have to go thru this.
While it is right for you to want you're mom to be happy, you cannot sacrifice yourself to make it happen..
I'm sorry, but you're mom is a pathetic human being. You need to tell an adult. Try to get a hold of a teacher you trust.
At the very least, you need to tell your mom whats going on and tell her she better stop it or you'll find another adult who will. No one deserves this type of treatment. No one.
Graduate from school move far away to college and never look back.
Good luck
no offence 2 u or ur family but ur mother is an @$$HOLE !! HOW THE HECK COULD UR OWN MOM LET THAT HAPPEN 2 HURR OWN DAUGHTER AND NOT RILLY CARE MUCH !! both ur mom and hurr bf have MAJOR issues. hes messed up in the head big time !! i would get the cops on his @$$...
u dont need 2 deal wit this **** $H!T
CALL THE ******** COPS NOWWWWWW !!!!!
i'm 17. my mothers boyfriend is...crazy, and i he's totally out of line in the way he talks to and treats me. calling me sexy...complimenting my body. walking into the bathroom when i'm in the shower. barging into my bedroom. coming up from behind and wrapping his arms around my waist. touching me in areas that would be covered by a bathing suit...often. telling me how suckable my toes are?? offering me alcohol. just the other day we went out on his boat, and he was so insistent that i bring a bikini so i could dance on the top of his boat and ';give all of the men something nice to look at.';
i'm no angel, but i totally feel the way he treats me is both inappropriate and disrespectful to not only me, but my mother as well. he's always over our house, and he has trouble putting the bottle down. my ma thinks everything he does while drunk is cute and excusable. grinding chanel into the couch, cute. trying to kiss chanel, cute. asking chanel to dance for him, cute. however, chanel doesn't find this too cute at all. (i'm chanel, btw) when he left the next day i told my mother that i didn't feel comfortable at home when he was drinking, and i got in trouble. ';he was just playing'; she says. i'm ';being too serious.'; he is always over, and my mother keeps the liquor cabinet full. oftentimes i stay with my boyfriend or over a friends house, but i don't think it's fair that i'm feeling our house is not my home. in my opinion, he needs to chill out with the drinking...and chill out in his own home. he can take her with him for all i care, to be quite frank.
this is not the first time i've had problems with my mothers boyfriend. a few years ago i was raped by her boyfriend. my mother and i had gotten into a fight and he was ';comforting me.'; my mother and i have a lot of problems, and it was a pretty serious fight, physically and verbally. still, i told her immediately after it happened (she was in the kitchen cooking dinner). long story short: he didn't leave that night, and it took him cheating on her with somebody other than her daughter for her to leave him...so if you haven't noticed, but mother has this weakness for hot men, and when i tell her how i feel about these things, my words go in one ear and out the other. i'm totally open with her, and she's completely aware. whoever said ignorance is bliss isn't lying. my ma is the queen of playing stupid. anything with the potential to cause conflict between them is anything she will not touch.
so...am i just screwed? i'm tired of the way he talks to me...and the way he touches me. he's been touching me for a few weeks now...telling my mother isn't going to solve anything. we've been down this road before. pathetic as i feel for admitting this i seem to have trouble saying the word ';no'; when he comes near. one of my biggest fears is breaking up their relationship, but it's stressing me out, and i need to worry about my own feelings! my ma is a big girl, and i guess i am too, but i should come first here dmmit. my mother + no man is not a good combination...or lack of, should i say. i'm not sure whether i'd be more happy putting up with him, or with my mother having no man in the house. both sound like hell to me.
i feel like such a wimp. i'm 17 and i feel ridiculous that i let this happen to me, like i'm old enough to prevent it from happening. i'm not talking about the flirting,i can deal with that...the touching though. i need it to end. what can i do? who should i talk to? what's the right way to go about this type of thing? sorry this was so long, just wanted you to understand where i'm coming from. my mother does not care, anon sperm donor not around, and i pretty much don't know who to go to and how to handle this. really, really, really desperate. help me!? thanks.How to deal with moms inappropriate boyfriend?
This is definitely domestic abuse and you need to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Ask THEM if you need to call the police, because honestly, unless an incident JUST occurred, the police may not be able to do anything immediately, only serving to aggravate your mom and her boyfriend (the law if a fickle thing).
You can visit their website here: http://www.ndvh.org/ but the first thing that pops up is a warning about being ';spied on'; by anyone... if your family is tracking your web site usage or if they're walking around, this web site would not be a good place to visit... wait until you can get somewhere private: a friends, the library, at work, etc... here is a picture:
http://img200.imageshack.us/img200/3161/鈥?/a>
Read everyone's responses carefully, pull yourself together, and WITHOUT waiting for another incident, call the hotline and report this immediately.
Stay strong; you sound incredibly smart, very aware of what's happening.How to deal with moms inappropriate boyfriend?
COPS+phone=NOW PLEZ u dont need that and he has probs. u should also mention ur mom is lettin it happen.
Ok, first off as someone who was sexually abused from ages 9-12 then again date raped for months by a so called ';boyfriend'; I met online (back in 1992 he was in his 20's %26amp; I was 17) I totally know where you are coming from.
First off have you spoken to your mom about this? I get that she isn't that understanding (my mom was very verbally abusive to me so I know it is not to trust your mom) but have you made it clear how you feel?
There is ALWAYS someone to talk to. You just need to look around.
Is there an -
aunt
cousin
great aunt
grandmother
teacher
pastor
nurse
doctor
a friend's parent or family member of theirs
boyfriend's parent or family member of theirs
This touching thing is totally wrong! You are not a freak.
Now as someone with your past of being raped like me also at times we can take something as someone being nice as uncomfortable but still NO ONES TOUCHES YOU WHEN YOU DON'T WANT THEM TO!
(I still freak out when a male family member touches me or gets too close)
Talk to a trusting adult. Look at the list I a made for you there is someone you can talk to.
You are not alone in this %26amp; don't have to be.
But honestly if I were you I'd get out of that house right away. You don't feel safe and you need a home where you can feel safe.
Try these links too -
http://teenlineonline.org/teens/
http://www.1800runaway.org/ - they may know of a safe place to go
I feel so horrible for you but your mother is being COMPLETELY irresponsible, especially since u have already been raped by one of her boy friends. you need to tell her straight up '; I will not stay here as long as he stays here and you are going to choose now'; If she breaks up with him than ur fine, if not go to a friends house and tell them this (a friend you really trust and with reasonable and responsible parents).If your mother still doesn't come around after a week or two contact a relative and if u tell them this they'll probably 4 shure help you. You might not wanna leave ur mom but shes putting you in danger and she has b4 and didn't learn her lesson. if you really want to go to extremes press charges if he even touched you, and i Pretty sure if you tell sum1 2 stop making inappropriate comments repeatedly and they don't its sexual harassment.
if you wanna take this mildly than u cld just tell the boyfriend of in like a loud and public manor that you do not want to touch him and if he doesn't leave you alone you'll call the cops.
Well, you've told your mother and I'm sure you've told the creep to back off. You need to call the cops, tonight. Pack yourself a bag and plan on going to stay with a friend or a relative until your mother kicks him to the curb, but you are a minor and that man is a sick freak. Your mother is just as guilty as he is. Both of them need to beaten with a wooden plank. I also think that you need to speak to a guidance counselor at your school (I know it may be summer, but at least when school gets going again) and see about getting yourself some counseling to work through some of the issues. You may feel okay, but there could be a lot of deep seated issues that might not surface till years down the road. It'll be better to deal with them right now. You need to take action before you turn 18 so he gets the maximum punishment possible.
Call the POLICE!!! Tall to them, it sounds like her boyfriend is Sexually Harassing you and is an alcoholic. Just call them and say ';Hi my name is Chanel, and my Mom's boyfriend is constantly griding me into the couch, touching me, and trying to kiss me and stuff. I was wondering what to do about this. He also drinks a lot when he does this stuff and I have already been raped by one of her boyfriends and I don't want it to happen again. Could you please help me?'; That should solve the problem. You could have some officers come down to your house, sit down with you and your mom (and maybe boyfriend) and talk about how his behavior is COMPLETELY out of line. Good luck I am so sorry to hear about all of this.
Don't risk yourself for your mom, she isn't doing anything for you. She isn't even protecting you. I know you love her but if she loves you, then she has to do something.
im 17 too, and this is what i would do, i would see if icould frind a friend to stay wit or ur bf for a few weeks until school or something starts, and if ur moms bf still hurts u, go to social services, or the police, dont be afraid to ask for help bc uarent alone.
First of all, your mothers boyfriend is a jerk. Its pretty lame that he's hitting on you! You should threaten too call the police if he trys to touch you. And howcome your mom can't do anything about it? And I agree, Nothing he does is cute, its disgusting. You should, Put purple dye in his shampoo, :P and you should talk to your mom about it. Why don't you live with your dad or something. Oh, and everytime that guy trys to touch you, beat the hell out of him, maybe he's with your mom too get to you, you know what I mean? What an AssHole. Hope I helped?. :)
First of all things happen to people they probably shouldn't happen to and it's totally not your fault. But about your mom not caring about the things with her boyfriends..well you can't change her. Unfortunately, unless she listens to you and puts him out or at least goes there instead then nothing will happen. You just have to have a heart to heart with her and really talk to her. video tape it. I wouldn't advise going to the cops but if it gets bad you probably should.
well if your not ready to tell your mom or anyone else yet, you could go to www.rainn.org it`s the internatinal rape, child abuse, and insect site. you can at information and tons of other stuff about what your talking about now.
No, you don't have to put up with this. For anyone. Not even your mom. She may be your mom, but she sure as hell isn't acting like one. You need to call the police. You can get out of there so you don't have to deal with your mom, or this stupid guy.
Or your other option is to get emancipated. Which will drive YOU out of the house, but is it better than dealing with them?
Basically, you can't sit around and deal with it. But you can't tell your mom. So the best thing you can do is tell another trusted adult, the same things you told us, or call the police. Either way will probably break apart your family, but your better off without her and him.
Please don't call yourself a wimp. Your 17. Practically old enough to live by yourself now. You could always find a friend to stay with until you can get your own house, or even a relative that you can stay with for a while. Anything but staying there. It's not right.
Good luck. And I'm trusting you to do something. You are 17, after all. Not a little girl. Time to start being your own back up plan.
Well first of all don't blame yourself, you're the victim here. It's hard to protect yourself from adults when you are a minor and don't have your legal and financial independence.
Both your mom and the boyfriend are breaking the law. Your mom is committing child abuse. It is her job to protect you and she is not doing it. The boyfriend is molesting a minor.
You can't and shouldn't deal with this by yourself. You need help from other adults.
You could report your mom to child protective services. You could tell your school counselor. You could move out permanently and not go back there even to visit. The third option would be esp. good if you have a trusted adult you can live with on permanent basis, who you can tell this story to. So they won't pressure to move back or talk to your mother.
Don't do nothing though, it sounds like this man could very well be revving himself up to try to rape you. Get the hell out of there!
Good luck and sorry you have to go thru this.
While it is right for you to want you're mom to be happy, you cannot sacrifice yourself to make it happen..
I'm sorry, but you're mom is a pathetic human being. You need to tell an adult. Try to get a hold of a teacher you trust.
At the very least, you need to tell your mom whats going on and tell her she better stop it or you'll find another adult who will. No one deserves this type of treatment. No one.
Graduate from school move far away to college and never look back.
Good luck
no offence 2 u or ur family but ur mother is an @$$HOLE !! HOW THE HECK COULD UR OWN MOM LET THAT HAPPEN 2 HURR OWN DAUGHTER AND NOT RILLY CARE MUCH !! both ur mom and hurr bf have MAJOR issues. hes messed up in the head big time !! i would get the cops on his @$$...
u dont need 2 deal wit this **** $H!T
CALL THE ******** COPS NOWWWWWW !!!!!
How do you deal with social anxiety disorder?
I have social anxiety disorder; I was diagnosed about 3 years ago. I have tried medication and therapy, but I don't like how the medication makes me feel and I would like to find an alternative to therapy. How do you combat negative thoughts and face your fears in social situations? One negative thought in particular I am having difficulty with is the constant fear that my boyfriend is cheating on me. How do I get rid of this?How do you deal with social anxiety disorder?
Its hard to overcome... what meds have you been on? I have General Anexiety Disorder and sometimes it controls my life. There are times when I can't even leave my bedroom. Sometimes I go hysterical at work (so embarressing) and other times I'm able to calm myself down, but it's hard. I take xanax daily... i used to be on a ';maintenance'; drug - but I didn;t like it, so now I'm going to counsuling ... It's not making a huge difference yet, but I am learning how to cope and what to do when I feel I'm about to have a panic attack... Sometimes just learning new ways to cope really help. Hang in there. Just remember some of the negative thoughts and fears you have are irrational. He loves you and would never cheat on you. Just the fear of it happening is scary - analyze the situation. . . (Trust is the most important part of a relationship, you know that so have a little trust %26amp; faith) Hang in there doll.
Its hard to overcome... what meds have you been on? I have General Anexiety Disorder and sometimes it controls my life. There are times when I can't even leave my bedroom. Sometimes I go hysterical at work (so embarressing) and other times I'm able to calm myself down, but it's hard. I take xanax daily... i used to be on a ';maintenance'; drug - but I didn;t like it, so now I'm going to counsuling ... It's not making a huge difference yet, but I am learning how to cope and what to do when I feel I'm about to have a panic attack... Sometimes just learning new ways to cope really help. Hang in there. Just remember some of the negative thoughts and fears you have are irrational. He loves you and would never cheat on you. Just the fear of it happening is scary - analyze the situation. . . (Trust is the most important part of a relationship, you know that so have a little trust %26amp; faith) Hang in there doll.
How would you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you wit his baby mama that hes been with for 13 years ?
when we got together ,i think that he was living with her. he always had his kids and now we live together and he don;t get to see them. she calls and talk to him about stuff that doesn't deal with their kids. they use to argue over the kids cause she wouldn't let him see them and now they are the bestest of friends. i'm happy that he get to see his kids but things just don't seem right. they were together for 13 years and he says that he don't won't her cause she got on his nerves and all she did was nag him. he told me that they argued alot. hes a good man i wouldn't trade him for the world. hes good as gold. i've been hurt in so many ways i don't know what to believe. i love and trust him but you know when you got a feeling that something ain;t right it ain't? 13 years that is a long time. hell they could be ******* he wouldn't care and she wouldn't care just as long as she got what she wanted. i know how bitches like her work.How would you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you wit his baby mama that hes been with for 13 years ?
well you said that you trust him... then you need to do just. Women, especially babies mamas will do what ever just to spite and make someone unhappy... (personal experience). You need to make this decision on your own, there is nothing you can do about him seeing her, he has to. You cannot tell him that you don't want him talking to her, because he has to. Then ONLY thing(s) you can do is....
1......approach him with your concerns,
2...... leave him and move on
3...... trust him and don't say anything.
This is something you have to decide.... love is blind.. don't let it make you a fool!How would you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you wit his baby mama that hes been with for 13 years ?
Gurl 13 years is a long time. I agree if you believe something is going on then some thing is going on. It may not be sex (yet) but it is something. Especially if you didn't feel that way before they started being nicy cnie to each other agian. I don't urge you to leave him but definately tell him how you are feeling. And spend more time with him. You know keep your face present in the picture. Go with him to pick them up. Offer to pick them up yourself sometimes. Tell him you want to be involved in this. This will 1 ease your feelings because your right there. 2 Make him appreciate you and if some of those old feelings for her are arrousing you being right there to conter act them will help.
regardless of what they are going to have a bond because he has kids with her if you have this feeling you should tell him how you feel instead of pretending things are okay it will make him feel happy that you told him and this will strengthen your relationship and sometimes it is the case when you have children because the feelings are there and it doesnt completely goes away
Dump him. He has his love already.
If they're sleeping together its 50/50 so quit trying to blame her. And if you're jealous of the mother of his children, then you don't need to be involved with a man who HAS children. Whether you or anyone else likes it or not they're going to be a part of each other's lives forever. You should be happy they're civil to one another now instead of fighting all the time. Quite honestly, you sound like a possessive control freak who would much rather he drop all his other responsibilities to suit you than be a good father to his children.
Sounds like Karma! Or jerry springer s...! You did the same thing when you got with him the first time. What did you expect?
HE CHEATED ON HER WITH YOU NOW SHES CHEATING ON YOU WITH HER. WHATS GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. HES HAPPY NOW BECAUSE HE GETS THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS A LITTLE BIT OF YOU AND A LITTLE BIT OF HER. IF HE CHEATED ON HER WITH YOU WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT HE WANT CHEAT ON YOU WITH HER.
well you said that you trust him... then you need to do just. Women, especially babies mamas will do what ever just to spite and make someone unhappy... (personal experience). You need to make this decision on your own, there is nothing you can do about him seeing her, he has to. You cannot tell him that you don't want him talking to her, because he has to. Then ONLY thing(s) you can do is....
1......approach him with your concerns,
2...... leave him and move on
3...... trust him and don't say anything.
This is something you have to decide.... love is blind.. don't let it make you a fool!How would you know if your boyfriend is cheating on you wit his baby mama that hes been with for 13 years ?
Gurl 13 years is a long time. I agree if you believe something is going on then some thing is going on. It may not be sex (yet) but it is something. Especially if you didn't feel that way before they started being nicy cnie to each other agian. I don't urge you to leave him but definately tell him how you are feeling. And spend more time with him. You know keep your face present in the picture. Go with him to pick them up. Offer to pick them up yourself sometimes. Tell him you want to be involved in this. This will 1 ease your feelings because your right there. 2 Make him appreciate you and if some of those old feelings for her are arrousing you being right there to conter act them will help.
regardless of what they are going to have a bond because he has kids with her if you have this feeling you should tell him how you feel instead of pretending things are okay it will make him feel happy that you told him and this will strengthen your relationship and sometimes it is the case when you have children because the feelings are there and it doesnt completely goes away
Dump him. He has his love already.
If they're sleeping together its 50/50 so quit trying to blame her. And if you're jealous of the mother of his children, then you don't need to be involved with a man who HAS children. Whether you or anyone else likes it or not they're going to be a part of each other's lives forever. You should be happy they're civil to one another now instead of fighting all the time. Quite honestly, you sound like a possessive control freak who would much rather he drop all his other responsibilities to suit you than be a good father to his children.
Sounds like Karma! Or jerry springer s...! You did the same thing when you got with him the first time. What did you expect?
HE CHEATED ON HER WITH YOU NOW SHES CHEATING ON YOU WITH HER. WHATS GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. HES HAPPY NOW BECAUSE HE GETS THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS A LITTLE BIT OF YOU AND A LITTLE BIT OF HER. IF HE CHEATED ON HER WITH YOU WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT HE WANT CHEAT ON YOU WITH HER.
My boyfriend might be cheating?
I know my boyfriend is talking online to girls in his city. We don't live near each other, but are planning a move soon. He talks to these girls online and I wouldn't mind it if they are only friends, but sometimes he talks to them about meeting and sometimes the messages are sexual. He has also told them that he doesn't have a girlfriend. I know that he has met a few of them for coffee, etc. and so far I don't think he has had sex with anyone, but I'm not sure. I need to know how to deal with this. And I can't tell him that I know about the conversations. And please don't tell me to ';dump him'; or ';get rid of him';...it's not that easy, and I would really rather work things out. Thanks!My boyfriend might be cheating?
dump him and get rid of him foreverMy boyfriend might be cheating?
well he probley is cheatin and if u jus wanna work things out and he is cheatin than he will cheat again good luck once a cheater alawys a cheater
The messages are sexual and he's met a few for coffee. You're boyfriend is cheating, not might be cheating. Would he like it if you chatted with other guys and met up for coffee with a few of them? I think not. You deal with this by having an open, honest conversation with him and then figuring out where you really stand with him.
you HAVE to fess up and tell him you know and hope he stops.. otherwise you're just in for more pain.. maybe you'll stop him before he actually does sleep with one of them.. to save you relationship.. you have to be honest about what you know..
if you know his password, go on pretend to be him and tell the girls you are not interested anymore. if not you need to be talking to him, and ask him how he would feel if the situation was reversed and then test it, if he says he doesn't care. play with his mind, it always use to work for me
Wait till he's moved in, and if he persists, talk to him about it.
maybe things will change when u move in because then he'll be sexing u like crazy and when he gets bored he'll go on the internet again. I dont believe anything good is going to come of this but I cant use the words because u said not to.
Cheating is more than having sex with someone. Cheating can also be emotional or putting yourself in a position where something could happen outside of a relationship.
If he has told other girls he has no girlfriend, why work it out? He is sending you a message.phone sexy hair
dump him and get rid of him foreverMy boyfriend might be cheating?
well he probley is cheatin and if u jus wanna work things out and he is cheatin than he will cheat again good luck once a cheater alawys a cheater
The messages are sexual and he's met a few for coffee. You're boyfriend is cheating, not might be cheating. Would he like it if you chatted with other guys and met up for coffee with a few of them? I think not. You deal with this by having an open, honest conversation with him and then figuring out where you really stand with him.
you HAVE to fess up and tell him you know and hope he stops.. otherwise you're just in for more pain.. maybe you'll stop him before he actually does sleep with one of them.. to save you relationship.. you have to be honest about what you know..
if you know his password, go on pretend to be him and tell the girls you are not interested anymore. if not you need to be talking to him, and ask him how he would feel if the situation was reversed and then test it, if he says he doesn't care. play with his mind, it always use to work for me
Wait till he's moved in, and if he persists, talk to him about it.
maybe things will change when u move in because then he'll be sexing u like crazy and when he gets bored he'll go on the internet again. I dont believe anything good is going to come of this but I cant use the words because u said not to.
Cheating is more than having sex with someone. Cheating can also be emotional or putting yourself in a position where something could happen outside of a relationship.
If he has told other girls he has no girlfriend, why work it out? He is sending you a message.
How would i find out if my boyfriend is cheating?
Hey, im 15 and dating my 17year old boyfriend. We have been meeting for just over 3 years and im starting to see cracks.
He works with a girl which he says he doesnt like, however he asked her out and texts her alot with kisses on the end and little stuff like that.
I aint that concerned a great deal as i spend most of the time with him, its just little things that are there that worry me..
Help will be appreciated :D xHow would i find out if my boyfriend is cheating?
The same thing happened to me recently, I have been dating this guy for three years and over the past couple months he has been texting a girl that graduated from our school last year. He swears up and down that they're just friends and that he only talks to her because she doesn't have any friends, but I can't seem to find the truth in that. We haven't been together a lot lately and I am starting to wonder what hes always doing. He is very secretive about his phone and freaks out if I touch it. I don't know what to do either.
He works with a girl which he says he doesnt like, however he asked her out and texts her alot with kisses on the end and little stuff like that.
I aint that concerned a great deal as i spend most of the time with him, its just little things that are there that worry me..
Help will be appreciated :D xHow would i find out if my boyfriend is cheating?
The same thing happened to me recently, I have been dating this guy for three years and over the past couple months he has been texting a girl that graduated from our school last year. He swears up and down that they're just friends and that he only talks to her because she doesn't have any friends, but I can't seem to find the truth in that. We haven't been together a lot lately and I am starting to wonder what hes always doing. He is very secretive about his phone and freaks out if I touch it. I don't know what to do either.
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