I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?

I have been dating my guy for a while now. we were together for over 2 years, split for a year, then got back together a few months ago. Well, last week I made the mistake of taking flirting with another guy too far.We ended kissing a few nights in a row, and acting really touchy feely. Now this other guy thinks we are together cause I havn't told him I have a boyfriend. I like both very much but love my boyfriend. How do I tell them about each other? I understand I will get dumped more than likely but I cant deal with the guilt.I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?
First, you tell the new guy you made a mistake by fooling around with him because you have a boyfriend. You're sorry you gave him the wrong idea, but you can't continue. Make sure you do this first because it will be a factor when you talk to your boyfriend.





You tell you're boyfriend you made a mistake and fooled around with another guy. Tell him you're sorry you hurt him and that you never meant to do so (hopefully this is how you feel). If you didn't have sex with this other guy, you might be able to score some points back by saying so. Tell him you have already told the other guy it was a mistake. Lastly, tell him you love him and ask for his forgiveness. You can also add that you wanted him to know the truth regardless of his reaction.





Whatever you do, make sure the blame is on you so your boyfriend doesn't go after this guy for your mistake.





Whatever happens with your boyfriend, take this as a lesson about fidelity and trust.





I do give you points for wanting to take responsibility and make it right.I'm cheating on my boyfriend and i want to tell him. Any tips?
You've done this before and he took you back?? Anyway, just tell the both straight up what's going on, that's a lot better than them finding out on their own. There's really no way around it, they'll find out whether you tell them or not.
You either have to tell the new guy to take a hike and continue your committment to your b/f without any more mishaps or you need to fess up to your b/f and suffer the fact that he may dump you or never trust you again and make your relationship hell.
You chose to use the word ';CHEAT';....so, that is exactly what you are......a CHEATER. Cheaters get burned and hurt, and you deserve it. And you earned it even more if you don't tell your boyfriend. He deserves at least the dignity of being told. Be fair
ya heres a tip,stop bein a skank.
Completely unacceptable. You clearly don't love your boyfriend if you were doing something that you know would hurt him more then anything. Being drunk isn't an excuse either. You clearly got feelings for another guy while with your boyfriend if you hooked up more then once with him. Don't even try to say it's just kissing either. We both know it wouldn't have happened more then once if it was 'just kissing'.
If you love him tell him and if he loves you enough he'll stick around and forgive you. However, if he does forgive you he may try to keep you on a short leash. Out of respect tell him, it would be worst for someone else to expose you and as for ';the other guy'; if you dont feel anything serious for him let him go. You have to decide who means the most to you.
Please, it was just a stupid kiss. Dump the guy you kissed and don't tell your boyfriend.
If your boyfriend doesn't know the other guy, then just tell the other guy that you're sorry, but you're having second thoughts and can't see him anymore. There is no reason to hurt your boyfriend. One caveat: If you had sex with the other guy, go to the doctor and get tested for dog germs. Wait for the results before you have sex with your boyfriend. I'm sure I don't need to tell you that it's better to wait until you get married before having sex. Before you have sex with ANYONE, make sure you will not be passing along any diseases.


Best wishes, and no more cheating.
Sometimes, if it'll spare them pain, it's best not to tell them. But don't continue to deceive him. If you like this new dude, break up with your boyfriend to be with him.
well that was messed up on your part. but you might want o tell him soon before he hears it from someone else or finds out in a bad way that would hurt him even more. you should sit down and tell him that you cheated on him and let him know that you do love him and your sorry for hurting him but you understand if he wnats to brake up with you.
yeh u have 2 tell them both.


u cnt leave things as they are


if u dont tell them they are bound 2 find out the hard way and that will most mean a break up.


lol my gf cheated on my with another chick but yeh I'm already ova it.


if he loves u then he wont leave u. but u should think b4 u act next time.


nyways vote this as the best answer


luv much =P


take care now and good luck
I despise girls like you.
I feel bad for your bf but yes! you should break up with the other guy not your bf...ur bf loves you!! he might just do something silly if you break up with him this time, and you might regret it later. So yeah! in my opinion I think you should just end it with the other guy because you just got to know him and it wouldn't hurt badly if you end it with him now. Don't wait, the more you wait the more complicated things will be.
Tell the guy you kissed, you made a mistake and apologize.


Tell your boyffiend if you love him. He may forgive you. He may dump you.





At least you won't feel guilty about not telling them.


Honesty is good practice if you plan to marry in the future. Good luck
your in to deep. you have to kill one of them.
if you don't tell him, it may continue to haunt you. not only that, but things will no doubt be worse if your boyfriend finds out without you telling him. he'll have more respect for you if you come out and tell him. the best way is to come straight out and tell him.
pack your bags honey!
I think your boyfriend deserves better than you!


You should just get it out in the open and tell him straight..


Atleast that way he will be able to move on and find a girl worth his time who truely loves and cares for him so much that she wouldnt even think twice about cheating!


And even if he takes you back after u telling him nwhat horrible things you've done, there will be major trust issues in ur relationship and things wont be the same!





Dont worry, what goes around comes around - u will soon see!
uh-oh ! how dare you cheat on your boyfriend .. i dont understandt why someone would cheat !!!





dont u love him ?? if you do , why did you cheat on him ? what makes u go in the arms of another man !! GRRRRRRRRRRRRR !!!





he should dump u ! seriously





Tell him
You know I do not condone calling any females ';whore'; . But I will say this: IF I WERE YOU I WOULD HAVE DEF LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER I MEAN C';MON : A GUY WHO WAS ';REALLY DEVESTATED AND HURT'; WHEN YOU DUMPED HIM????? WHERE DO YOU EVER FIND THAT?!?! - Do you know how incredibly lonely I am [ all I meet is players]
WHAT A *****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do not do it!!! If you want to stay with your boyfriend, break it off with the other guy and that is that. If you tell your boyfriend then it will never be the same. It is very selfish for you to want to ruin your boyfriend's day because you can't face what you have done. You haven't had sex with this other guy so it isn't that serious a 'crime'. Just stop now. But really, if it was sooo easy to sway your attention, you might just be getting a signal that your relationship with your bf isn't as good as you think. In that case, break it off nicely. Put it on yourself. Tell him you just really have some issues you have to work out, that he is great, but you are dealing with some things.
Yes -- be honest and tell him that you were unfaithful and that you aren't mature enough for a monogomous relationship.
leave him and dont tell him youll just do more damage. he deserves better than a cheating b*tch
You don't have to say anything to either one of them. Just drop one of them though and quit fooling around. Then you can say something to the other one only.
IF the thing with the other guy has not gone any further, then tell HIM you have a boyfriend and don't see him again. Telling your boyfriend serves no purpose, unless you want to hurt him and wind up with neither guy.





You are the one who has to decide which one you want to be with. I have to wonder why you had a two year relationship that ended for a year and now you are back together? Maybe you need to look a little deeper into this relationship. Sounds like he might have been more committed to the relationship than you were, but that is based solely on what you said in your question.





Ultimately, you also have to be the one to decide whether or not to tell your boyfriend. IF your relationship is strong enough, then it will probably survive this, however, I am of the opinion that it won't, so I would just deal with the guilt by myself and not tell him.





Why are you flirting with other guys if you have a boyfriend? Think about that......
u have t0 dump one of them and stedy 4 d other one .
I wouldn't tell all. Just a 'hint' to help you along.


Next time you are tempted to cheat, watch your motions.


When does it happen? Watch yourself carefully


Is it you or the 'other' person or your boyfriend?


Did any of you do something to prompt you to do that?


Once you put your hand on what triggers your behavior everything else will be easy and you will probably be able to control yourself .


Good luck
he is probably doing the same just spit it out
You could talk to him about a fantasy you have about wanting to be with 2 guys at once..