Cant deal with my boyfriend's past?

i have asked something similar too this ...but this is little more elaborate.....see the thing is he has been very promisquois in his past has had vacations ...and slept with random stangers basically been very cheap and sleezy in his past ....but its his past right and thats where it should be....the thing is he has spoken about his past in a very showoff manner and kind off brags abt itand the way he told me abt those girls was very disgusting ,and has cheated on his ex girlfriend ,and has double standards when i said that i have been fooled by a guy he was like 'how can u do this ,and how can u degrade urself like this why u werent mere sensible and i was just 18 then ,dhaahhh comming from a guy who has slept with more than 10 girls and except one every relation was a fling ,god he is moralpolicing me ...then he said that he was never serious with any girl and no one can blame him ,hw does he know? that i am very sure frm what he told me that atleast 3 girls were badly hurt ,but didnt bother talking to him ,bcoz wats the point in banging ur head against the wall....now i can make out what i shud think abt him he is frivillous ,cheap, cheater and has doubklestandards ,and obviously i can trust him ,what if he goes out of country again and i cant go with him, wats the guarantee he wont cheat again,and i am very uncomfortable and disgusted with this his past and his mentality ,,i have had 2 relationships he is my 2nd bf....and i am not judgemental but i can understand this thinking just sleeping around ,and then judgeing others even if they have been fooled ,and with each growing day i am more uneasy ,dont knw wats bothering me more his past or his mentality,or both ,i am not judgemental i have so many friends who have been fast but it never made me think about them like this ,but yaa they are all cool if their partners are equally adventurous ,big deal...dont knw wat to do..and wat to think ,sometimes randomly i get upset with him becoz he craks some girl joke or refers to his past ,,i get so angry ,and cheatedCant deal with my boyfriend's past?
I think love is two-faceted. And indeed, it is true, that the you hate the person who you love the most. you had a standard for him, but he was not able to reach upto that. Tell me one thing, would you have loved this guy if he had told you all this beforehand? i think not. I think in a way, ur trust has been shattered.


You are in a tricky situation, I know coz i am in one too. But lets not go into my concerns, i know its very confusing and uncomfortable for you, and you might be having sudden mood-swings when u suddenly get a flash of the past.


But the question that would solve ur answer is, how does ur bf react to all that? does he accept his fault? or does he still brag?


If he brags, then talk to him. tell him you do not like this. Does he stop it for you? Does he control and comfort you when he has moodswings or is insensitive and say that it was the past?


Dont answer all these questions generally, but ask them in context with the situation


My dear, dont wait for him to cheat on you and be shattered. Dont even expect for any such thing to happen so tht ur not shattered. Just end it if it does not go ur way too. In this situation you know that in the end, ur the one who will be heartbroken if something like that happens. Dont give him the freedom for that.


If u cant trust him with other 'girl friends' anymore, then talk it out. tell him to explain what kind of relation he shares. i think in a relationship, two-way committment and understanding is essential.


Hope you get your peace :)Cant deal with my boyfriend's past?
if he cheated before he'll cheat again





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Its like drug or alcohol sddiction. Leave the thing and look for something sobre.
let him know he has to respect women n the way he treated them was cheap. n yeah if he's worth it...put up with it.
i don't understand that how can someone fall in love with a guy like this.


u should abondon him before he cheates you....
too long, didn't read it.....but if he's worth it then deal with it
once unfaithful, always unfaithfull!!!





Many women think that men will change cuzzz of them, they are totally wrong, they end up unhappy and having a horrible life with that man!





Break up with him!!!





If he slept with random people, he doesn't even respect his own body! You're just going to be one more girl in his life!!!!





I hope you find the strenght to break up with him!!!





He will only cause you pain!!!





love yourself before loving anybody else!





Good luck!
if u can't stop thinking about his past than it is not going to work. And it does not help by him bragging about it, so the best thing to do is to tell him not to talk to him about it b/c you can't take it. If he can't understand that, that it is time to move on.
you say you love him too much


how can you love someone who is ';frivilous, cheap, cheater and has double standards';?


you talk out both sides of your mouth, girl


if his past is really in his past, why does he keep bringing it up and making light of it?


he is allowing you to enable him to treat you however he wants


so, he is like he is and dragging you down with him for tolerating that


his mentality is pretty low, but, yours is falling, too, for staying with such a loser
It sounds like you've answered your own question. The hardest part is just doing what needs to be done. You are much too special to be treated frivolously. It sounds like he just wants to play the field while you want a committed relationship. You can't change that. I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation. The longer you put off leaving him the harder it will be. Or if you decide to stay understand that what you are dealing with now is just the tip of the iceberg. You will have to know that if you aren't with him when he travels he won't be faithful and if someone comes along that he decides is a better deal he will leave you.





All the best to you!
You may feel that this is a big problem, but many people in this world previously handled this problem easily .Those people will be ready to help you since they have confidence to solve this problem since they gained that confidence while solving their problem of similar nature.


If you two are ideal partners ,any one will be happy to help you to marry. Hence you start to note down the good qualities ,bad qualities, hobbies of your lover .Similarly ,you should also make a list of your good qualities ,bad qualities, hobbies .You can even use private detectives to observe the good ,bad qualities of your lover .If you are interested ,you can also begin to read palmistry books to find out the secrets of your lover, even though palmistry is not 100% scientific, you can use it intelligently as a tool ,just like police use different tools to open the mouth of criminal! There are also books which teach how to find the true nature of a person analyzing his handwriting .You can use that one also. There are books which teach us how to understand the nature of a person by observing his behavior that is called as body language books .You can use them also


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I think you are too silly to have such a man in your life. If you were a lesbian, may be it's good to have such a boy friend just for the sake of having one. But, in your case, PLEASE kiss him Good bye! There are better men in this world
You don't deserve to have a guy treat you like that. Would you prefer to keep being with him but endure all that crap or would you prefer to leave without any worries in the back of your mind and a chance to be with a guy who actually respects you? It's your choice... Good luck.








So what do you like about this guy again?