Monday, August 16, 2010

How to deal with boyfriend's manipulative ex gf?

My boyfriend hasn't been with his ex-girlfriend in 7 months. I have been with him for 6 months. They have 1 child together (he has custody) and there's another child that was proven as not his by a paternity test. She cheated on him, lied to him for years, manipulated him... and it still hasn't stopped. In the beginning of the relationship, she called him almost every day...telling him she loved him and missed him and that he should get back with her ';for the kids';. Now she calls on holidays, special occassions, and when she thinks she can control him the most. Today is his birthday and she called this morning to tell him happy birthday and told him she would take him out to dinner. What the f***? She knows he is with me and continues to disrespect both of us. I want to kill her so bad. How are you supposed to deal with people like this?How to deal with boyfriend's manipulative ex gf?
KILL THE *****!How to deal with boyfriend's manipulative ex gf?
Tell your boyfriend to grow a backbone..stand up to his ex..put her in her place..as long as he is going to allow himself to be manipulated by his ex..disrespected by his ex..she is going to keep on playing the game..if he wants to play her game..then tell him good-bye because he is not the man..you think he is.
first of all shes being a selvage bi**h and then you need tell your bfd hes need to handle her she need to stop calling and causing problems and set day%26amp;time for to visit child and she needs to grow up and realise she f**ked up and let it go and start thinking about the kids and to call only if its about the child good luck
Ignore it and grow up. She knows just how immature you are and knows you will fall for it.
I think you should focus on two things here.





One: She will not stop. You cannot make her do it. Period.


And she is doing it precisely because she knows she makes you so angry.





Two: Your boyfriend should be the one dealing with this to begin with. IF he truly loved and respected you, he would have ALREADY told her to back off and stop calling him.





He should have been the one to set boundaries and limits. He should not accept her phone calls or invitations. If the woman keeps doing this, it's because HE is leading her on.





If he hasn't , then you have a man who is not only weak, but also possibly still emotionally involved with this ex of his. And this is not good news for you.





I guess this is why people who go through a breakup need some time alone...so they can sort out their feelings and heal.





Sounds to me like you are a rebound; and that you two started seeing each other before he was ready.





The question is...Are you willing to go through this ordeal for a long time to come? Because if you aren't and this is driving you crazy, you should really consider calling it quits.


Good luck.
honey . . . i dealt with a psycho ex wife for 2 solid years


the only thing that worked was ignoring her %26amp; not getting on her level by any means


i stopped accepting her phone calls %26amp; following up on her threats %26amp; harrassment





hubby %26amp; she has 2 grown kids she used as leverage for a long time until her kids told her to stop talking for them, they were grown %26amp; didnt need her as the middle man





it takes time, if the bf is worth it, you will be the bigger one %26amp; just act like she doesnt exist . . . its not easy, as we all want to be right %26amp; have the last word . . . but is it really worth it?





live your life, enjoy your bf %26amp; get on with it

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