How long should I patiently wait for my boyfriend to deal with his feelings for his ex-wife?

I have been in a relationship with this man for 9 months now, but i know that he still has feelings for his ex-wife. I am really trying to deal with it the best way that I know how. This woman treated him terribly and cheated on him constantly, but he still has feelings for her. I have worked hard on this relationship and I love him dearly, but I love myself enough to let it go if he can't be the man that he should be for me.How long should I patiently wait for my boyfriend to deal with his feelings for his ex-wife?
i went through.that...now that it's 9 months, he needs to make a decision... i gave my husband an ultimatum -- call her back and don't call me no more.....HER calls stopped... good luckHow long should I patiently wait for my boyfriend to deal with his feelings for his ex-wife?
I Want to help you with this the best I know how and i hope that you will understand my in go on this. I feel that as a married man myself I honestly think you should address him with your feelings. You should also remember something important Always look out for #1. He can't possibly be focused on you if his feelings are still wandering in her direction. Talk with him first see whats in his head and what he wants to do and if he cannot make a decision or your not in his favor ';Let him go until he can make up his mind. You don't need to be going through this and wondering if hes cheating on you.





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How long has this man been divorced?


If it was w/in the year, maybe he just wasn't ready for another long term committment or didn't have a chance to actually get over her before he started dating you.


If you think he still has feelings for her, you need to find out for sure, b/c after 9 months I'm sure you are attached to him and it will just get harder the longer you stay with him. Remember that sometimes no matter how much we love someone, sometimes they just aren't able to love us back. I hope everything works out for you!!!
Whenn you say you worked hard on this relationship, do you mean that you led him to think that his ex-wife was cheating on him, or that you would wait for him? Maybe he is having second thoughts about going with you, after that.
i would wait for however long it takes.
a relationship is never just based on waiting for things to happen.


i firmly believe in making things happen when realistically possible. life is too short. you must do what you can to let him know what he has in you, how different it is from his past relationships and definitely, without a doubt - tell him your concern for this and how it might negatively effect what you have with him.


if you continue to feel like he has not moved on from his past, then you must make a tough decision. 9 months is a realistically sufficient amount of time to get over a relationship which was not good for us. if he continues to not be able to get over it - then he has more work to do then you realize. i know we all put up with many things which we don't like when in a relationship but significant feelings (other than pure friendship) for an ex should never be one of them. don't sell yourself short, be assertive and speak your mind as well and as clearly as you can. us guys do not like to bossed but some of us, unfortunately, will continue to be wussy if allowed to. there comes a time when a guy must ';man up'; and do what he must. and sometimes that means forceably putting our past behind us. if he doesn't have the will or fortitude to do so - then i think you must start realizing that you are in relationship with someone whom cannot take control of their life well enough to be in relationships in a healthy manner. there are many people out there like that - believe me. the stronger you are for yourself, the quicker you will get to where you want to be. eventually, you might have to use an ultimatum. no problem with that as long as you do it with good communication and really, truly and fully express yourself. and if you are the type that can wait for a long, long time.......then you'd better settle in for more of this because he might not be able to move on until his ex does. again, this is not a sign of strength that's for sure.
go on, but keep an eye on him. it is not worth waiting on unless you happen to be single yourself when he is free
you can't, because this things are in the head. it is part of his past. if he didn't have a wife like this, then he will not meet you. what you have to do is build a future with him. past is history, they stay, now make history with him now. so in a year when he look back, he is with you, not her or anyone else.
Be a best frnd to this man.give your full support, u share things with him %26amp; let him share everything with u react as a good frnd don't show any kind of harsh feeling be cool he will realise 1 day tht he is doin wrong with u but do this only if u love him or else say him tht it irritates u %26amp; lead tht discussion on the unknown way