How do I deal with my boyfriend and cheating?

Found a sent email in my boyfriend's outbox with a head shot of himself and a picture of his ';thing';. It was to some girl he was chatting with online and was telling her get ready for action. I immediately told him off and he said he didnt go through with it because of how much he loves me. He is blowing up my phone with texts and phone calls and crying about how much he loves me. He says he's been sexually frustrated for the last few weeks since I haven't been able to have sex..I had a ruptured cyst in my ovary and was hesitant about sex until I had my follow up appt with my gyno. This hurts, because this isn't the first time he has done this. He claimed he didn't go through with it then either...the first time was a year ago... We've been together for a little over a year and I know he loves me, but he is too weak when it comes to sex. I don't know whether to forgive him or leave him alone. I hate I had to check his email, but he has given reason to not trust him.How do I deal with my boyfriend and cheating?
I know it is a hard situation and Im sorry that you're going through this, but I think that the best thing for you to do is to just let him go. If he has done it before it is most likely that he is going to keep doing this to you. Be strong and think about yourself and dont feel bad for not trusting him, he brought that onto himself.





Good Luck and I wish you the best!How do I deal with my boyfriend and cheating?
you said it your self that he has given you reasons to not trust him...he did it twice and can do it again just easily..and it sucks that you have to go threw his inbox to find out and him not just telling you like nothing happen.....you really think that he loves you when he sending a picture of his private to another girl and saying to get ready...you been hurt enough to know to move on...
pay attention to what you just said ';hes too weak when it comes to sex'; imagine how it would be if you two are married. lets say you become too sick to ';satisfy'; him. guess where hes going to find that satisfaction? i would break up with him. use your common sense. if he did it the first time then DUH its no shock he did it again.





him saying he didnt go through with it beuase he loved you were just sooo lame. you should have been able to see through him when he said that. when guys are always caught, they always play the victim or try to baby talk you.





if you stay with him youre in for more hardache.
People can go for years without sex and it doesn't cause any damage. Given the slightest chance......he'd sleep with anything that moves.





He is basically saying that sex is more important than you and your health. What do you think he would do if you can't have sex for six weeks after having a baby?





He meets someone on-line and starts sending pictures of himself after a few weeks? The fact that he has done this before should scream volumes.





Is this the type of relationship that you want or deserve? Do you see yourself being able to trust him in the future?





If the answer is no....then you know what the answer is.
hon hes done it twice chances are he will more than likely do it again i would end it all i have to say is if that happened to me and i found something like that i would leave that relationship you just dont do that i would end it with him he sounds like he only wants one thing and sounds like he isnt worth it


im sry you had a ruptured cyst i hope your doing alright sweetie


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dump his cheatin ***
i would break-up with him cuz he could be lying and since he already tried to do it then he mighty try again and he mighty do it
Trust is the foundation of a relationship and he's blown it. You need to find somebody else and let him learn his lesson for the next girlfriend.
You will know that if you get pregnant, he will be cheating.





You will know that if you are sick or hospitalized, he will be cheating.





If you, or he has to go out of town on business, he will be cheating.





AND, in all this, he is trying to make it sound like it's YOUR fault. As in YOU weren't available. When the truth is, that he is a man of low character.





Tell him that you want a manly man who has some impulse control, not a sloppy puppy who is anxious to put it anywhere.
If this guy cannot control himself while you try to recuperate from this ruptured cyst and if he's willing to jeopardize your relationship by cheating then he does not deserve you. This guy cheated on you before and that should tell you that he's not going to stop now. The only reason he's telling you that he didn't go through with it is because he got caught. If you find this guy too weak and if you cannot trust him then why do you still want to be with him. If this guy is able to do this to you when it's only been one year that you have been together then imagine what he will do in 5 years.
If you two are going to make it work, it's time for counseling.


The basic facts are that he went looking for sex because you couldn't have sex with him. He decided his sexual needs were more important than your health needs.


Not the kind of guy I'd want to marry
I don't know you, but you are a woman and have worth and are valuable. I want you to be in a relationship with a man that honors you and is committed to you - a man who would never send a picture of his ';thing'; to anyone.





It sounds like he is a man who completely struggles with being faithful with his heart and mind and has now taken steps to invite infidelity into his life...draw it to himself by putting suggestions out there...that is a man who is mentally and sexually unhealthy...out of touch with reality and is seeking some ';high'; something to make him feel better rather than dealing with his heart and becoming okay with who he is..you know? A real man is going to find his strength within himself and find how he can be loving, and a hero to others....a weak man is goign to look for ways to satisfy his superficial desires to feel better for a moment and not think twice abotu it until he realizes it interferes with something else he wants -you...then he will whine and cry until he gets you back...all to go back to his old ways...





Find a real man...one who has internal strength and conviction for what is right and wrong. You will be much happier. This man wants to feel better about himself in some jacked up ways...that are only going to continue to hurt you.





Know your worth. Do not settle for less. You only have one life my girl!
Leave him.





If you forgive him and stay, you're basically saying ';It's okay to go out and cheat again on me because I'll just forgive you and take you back.';





Do you really want to be walked on like this by someone you don't trust? You know what you need to do.
I don't believe ';once a cheater, always a cheater';, but he's now developing a record of infidelity, and that's not healthy. You cannot continue to allow this. What happens when you two get married, and have a baby... You won't be able to have sex for six weeks (doctor's orders). What then? Will he cheat, and you just allow it because he's sexually frustrated?





If he loved you so much..... no to be rude, but... he'd just do what any other guy does when he's not getting sex, and he'd masturbate.





This is his second offense, you've been more than fair with forgiving him the first time, but you can't take this sitting down. Do something about it!





Cheers
Leave!! He will be more careful next time..